Circles In The Water

Written by Doug Harvey


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People do not always want help. They do not always want to feel ofrepparttar impact you may provide, no matter how good or well intended it might be. The trouble is that once you have launched yourself in this way, you cannot retract it. Like it or not an impact will occur, all that you can do is attempt to lessen it. So how do you go about lesseningrepparttar 130690 impact you are making on someone's life? There you are, already launched. How are you going to restrainrepparttar 130691 impact?

I recall watching a film a while ago, in which some overeager person hit a missile launch button. The missile was enroute to target when it was realized that it was a mistake! What'srepparttar 130692 more,repparttar 130693 self-destruct button failed to initialiserepparttar 130694 onboard sequence. They had two choices left open to them - evacuate or use another missile to destroyrepparttar 130695 first that was launched manually from an aircraft.

So what are your options if your "missile" has been launched and you want to avoidrepparttar 130696 impact or at least lessen it? They are as follows:

1.Send an auto-destruct sequence - can you say or do something that will stoprepparttar 130697 "missile" in its tracks and thus prevent any impact?

2.Manually destroyrepparttar 130698 "missile" -Can you say or do anything that will cause any previous situation to be totally dissipated or deflected out of harms way?

3.Lessonrepparttar 130699 impact - What can you say or do that although will not preventrepparttar 130700 impact, so that it will causerepparttar 130701 least amount of damage possible?

4.Evacuaterepparttar 130702 area of impact - Can you moverepparttar 130703 target so that although they are aware and damage may be done, lives are salvaged?

Personal impact is not all bad though. Notice howrepparttar 130704 ripple of impact in fluid (and even in some examples of solid impact), does not changerepparttar 130705 matter itself but simplyrepparttar 130706 formrepparttar 130707 matter takes andrepparttar 130708 direction it takes. Ripples in liquid, form circular ridges flowing outward, in line withrepparttar 130709 strength of impact. In people's lives, we often cause ripples that do not changerepparttar 130710 character themselves necessarily, but do affect their direction and strength. An important factor to understand here is that such affects may be for good or bad. We all need to offload our cares and trials from time to time, and when we do this, it makes us feel good. We feel so much lighter for doing so. Our problem or concerns may not be solved, but somehow we just feel better for doing so. It is good to have friends who can share our burdens. It is important though to remember that our friends too will have their own concerns. What's more your problems will be a concern to them simply because they are your friends! Oh dear! Does this mean that we should not really be burdening our friends with issues in our lives? No not all. What it means is that we all need buffer zones. We, if you like, make ourselves targets for points of impact for each other.

Impact uponrepparttar 130711 lives of others exists as natural fact. How we deal withrepparttar 130712 impacts when they occur is softened byrepparttar 130713 simple task of listening to each other. Beingrepparttar 130714 listening ear - providingrepparttar 130715 shoulder can sometimes be all that is required. You may not be a "professional" in dealing withrepparttar 130716 problems of others, but one thing you can be - one thing that really lessensrepparttar 130717 impact of less thinking people upon people you know - you can be their friend - their true friend. Your impact then really does change people's lives. It changes them forrepparttar 130718 better. Go and be a friend, play a part in their "circles of destiny".



As a Professional Life Coach, Doug changes peoples lives by helping them discover self-worth and clearing away the fog of life that sometimes restricts their view. Doug particularly helps those who have reached a stage of uncertainty in their lives and need to take control. To download two FREE chapters from his latest ebook, "Take Control Of Your Life", click here :-> http://www.lifesight.net. Email: doug.harvey@lifesight.net


How to Prevent Suicide

Written by Michael G. Rayel, MD


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Anticipate complications

Watch out for complications once you know that your loved one is in distress. Be aware of any changes such as suicidal and homicidal behavior and aggression. If not showing actual destructive behavior, ask for any thoughts of death or wanting to die or to kill.

Inquiring aboutrepparttar presence of suicidal or homicidal thought will not push your loved one to act destructively. In fact, your loved one might be encouraged to disclose more information and to express well-kept emotions.

Remedy with Early Intervention

Early intervention requires you to first accept or acknowledge that a problem exists andrepparttar 130688 urgent need to address it. Being in denial can only make matters worse. Denial interferes in recognizing on-going problem.

Assist in addressing your loved ones pressing issues. Offer to provide some financial support or to contact appropriate government agencies. For someone in legal trouble, suggest obtainingrepparttar 130689 advice of a good lawyer.

Be available and supportive. Reassure your loved ones that you will be in their side no matter what. Let them talk about their worries and travails. Provide a listening ear. Avoid arguments and criticisms. Show empathy.

Be alert for signs of destructive behavior such as wrist slashing, overdosing, verbalizing death, agitated behavior, writing or changing a will, and giving away properties. If your loved one is in distress, clarify if one has entertained destructive thoughts.

Call for help. Because suicidal and homicidal behavior requires immediate help, further delay is a not an option. Call mental health hotline, mental health services, or emergency rooms to seek guidance and to ask forrepparttar 130690 next step. Do not hesitate to call law enforcement agencies or mental health crisis team if your loved one refuses to get help.

Educate Yourself

Knowing aboutrepparttar 130691 illness,repparttar 130692 dos and don’ts, and how to best cope is a powerful way of dealing with suicide or other destructive behavior. Furthermore, education helps you get rid of misconception, self-blame, guilt, and shame.

In summary, suicide, like cancer, has only one goal – death. It has caused agony, sleepless nights, and oceans of tears for those who are left behind. However, despite its deadly intentions, suicide is also a cry for help. Fortunately, simple steps such asrepparttar 130693 CARE approach make suicide surmountable.



Dr. Rayel, author of First Aid to Mental Illness, is a clinician, a forensic and geriatric expert, and a speaker. As an advocate of first aid for mental health, he has established seminars and workshops on the subject. He can be reached at www.drrayel.com.


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