Choose a Life Mate, Don't Wait for a Soul Mate

Written by Michelle L. Casto


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As it turns out, real love grows over time and involves a conscious choice. And here I was for years and years, believing that I would see my soul mate across a crowded room, fall immediately in love, and live happily ever after! Perhaps you can relate with my illusion? Upon my own inner reflection and by talking to others while I was writing Get Smart! About Modern Romantic Relationships, I discovered thatrepparttar “soul mate” myth has endured for so long because we want to believe there is someone perfect for us—even though we ourselves have many warts and imperfections. We want to believe in unconditional love and acceptance. We also want to believe in “destiny.” We wantrepparttar 131196 hand of God to bring our "twin" to us. We want to feel overwhelmingly drawn to him or her like a moth to a flame. We want to feel instant recognition when we first lay eyes on that person. For many folks, it is much easier for them to believe that their life is pre-destined, and that if they only wait long enough, they will find that perfect person. Instead of choosing to use what God gave us—the ability to love andrepparttar 131197 free will to choose--- we leave our romantic lives up to “fate.” (Something we would never do with our career or other important life needs, byrepparttar 131198 way). And of course, we learn about love throughrepparttar 131199 media, and are lead to believe that finding our soul mate is easy. It happens allrepparttar 131200 time inrepparttar 131201 movies, right? At a deeper level, perhaps we want to believe in soul mates because we unconsciously seek a re-connection to our own God or Goddess. Maybe we believe that through a union with another person, that in addition to experiencing physical ecstasy that we will also experience spiritual ecstasy? If you stop to think about how many times “heaven” is referenced in romantic love songs—you may begin to realizerepparttar 131202 unconscious connection we often make between romantic love and spirituality. Withrepparttar 131203 soul mate theory to romantic love, you have no conscious choice but to be with that person. Inrepparttar 131204 real world,repparttar 131205 choice is yours. Be sure to make it on a conscious level. What I have learned while on my journey with my Life Mate is that we each have to develop a relationship with God in our own way and then work (it is a true labor of love) at our relationship on a daily basis. My romantic relationship is full of joy and love but also with pain and work. (That is human reality). I now know that human love takes conscious effort, time and thought. And that choosing a Life Mate over seeking a soul mate makes for a much more fulfilling and attainable real-love experience.



Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed is a whole life coach, speaker, and author. Her coaching practice is Brightlight Coaching, she helps people come up with bright ideas for their life and empowers them to freely shine their bright light to the world. Visit virtually: www.getsmartseries.com www.brightlightcoach.com Sign up for free ezine: getsmarter-subscribe@yahoogroups.com


Can You Live Totally In The Moment?

Written by Jan Tincher


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You finally got rid of it, didn't you? Good.

Now, go back to living inrepparttar moment. You are atrepparttar 131193 contest. You don't remember any of that old stuff, because each time an old, unsupporting thought comes up, you let it go.

Once it's gone, concentrate on your pulse. Be very quiet until all you can hear is your pulse beat.

At this very moment, isn't your life in it's perfect place?

Isn't your health perfect?

Isn't your financial situation perfect?

Aren't your friendsrepparttar 131194 perfect friends for you?

Relax and enjoy this time, and let your old negative thoughts disappear. Feelrepparttar 131195 peace and enjoyrepparttar 131196 contest.

Now, I ask you, why would you want to spend your time letting old thought patterns come up, when it feels so much better imagining a perfect life? Why not spend your time attracting that perfect life, instead of reliving your *old* life? Because if you are relivingrepparttar 131197 parts of your old life that you didn't, and don't, like, you are attractingrepparttar 131198 very things you don't want.

~~~~~~~~~ Thanks for reading. Jan

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