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To create change, make your requests clearly, gently and as soon as you become aware of need. Your requests are more likely to be granted. However, if they are not granted, you cannot demand change.
Making an effective request is definitely a skill. To learn this skill, please read next week's newsletter.
School of Thought III: ---------------------- Produce change at any cost or any way you can. Hold back no weapon in your arsenal. Manipulation, nagging, begging, threatening are all fair game. Don't ever give up because, after all, change is good for your partner.
The Alternative: ---------------- When you request change from your partner to further growth and development, it is often very good for him/her. However, any underhanded attempt will be met with resistance and anger. You will not get change. In fact, things may get worse.
Your alternative is to ask clearly and openly, with love, for what you want. Again, to learn how to do this read next week's newsletter.
If change is something your partner wants for himself or herself, offer support in creating it. Do this for as long as it takes to create change. If answer is no, accept it and deal with consequences, even if consequence leads to end of relationship.
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com
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