The benefits of diving are that anyone can do it, and you don’t have to have any license to make a trial dive. Unlike for example sky diving, scuba diving doesn’t trigger as much fear and most people would be thrilled at opportunity to see world under surface. It is an adventure that you make together. Something that makes things even better is that many dive boats serve food so you can enjoy a good meal (yes, food is often good) after your dive and enjoy ocean on your way back. I guarantee that it is an experience that few women have ever had on a date before, and an experience she will carry with her for many years to come. Who know you just might be living and diving together for many years to come. And even if you don’t have such luck you would definitely not seem to be just anther guy, but rather a guy a girl might want to recommend to her girlfriends even if she doesn’t hock u with you.

A diving trip doesn’t have to take more time then any regular date. A few hours is enough and it doesn’t have to cost more then a nice dinner. You can find places to that offers diving almost regardless of where you live in world and you can most likely find a lake that offers great diving even if you live in middle of country.

Of course diving is only one way to make an unusually, memorable date, and I am sure you can find many more ways. But regardless of what you choose to do, I guarantee that an unusually memorable date is always worth time and preparations they require to plan.

And if you want to be even more special than all of us making things like taking our dates diving, take your girl night diving, that way your date includes both a new dark and mystical world to explore and a moonlight boat ride. A moonlight boat ride when you can talk about what you experienced in that mystical exotic new world you just shared.

Remember don’t be just another guy.

Jack who became offended at being congratulated for overcoming his past, was actually having following conversation in his head: he is putting me down because I had alcoholic parents; he is saying I am not capable of being successful on my own instead of 'overcoming' something in my past; he is mocking me because of how I grew up.

No wonder he became so upset at Jim’s innocent attempt at a compliment. Like many of us, Jack was responding to his perspective of what was being communicated—not Jim’s.

Changing your self-talk

The next time anger threatens to spoil a family event, try these simple steps:

Step 1: Retreat and think things over. Never respond immediately to a family anger or stress trigger. Give your body and your mind a chance to calm down so you can think rationally. Research shows this may take at least 20 minutes.

Step 2: Examine evidence. The most convincing way of disputing negative self-talk toward a family member is to show yourself it is factually incorrect. Do not lie to yourself, but—like a detective —simply and honestly look at all evidence at hand.

For instance, when calm Tom remembered that his wife was excellent with money and rarely overspent. Jack remembered that Jim never disparaged him and, in fact, had always supported him throughout years of their friendship.

Step 3: Find a more positive and useful way of interpreting behavior of family members. Tom was finally able to see his wife’s buying behavior as a sign of love and caring for him, rather than trying to hurt him or cause stress.

Jack was eventually capable of seeing that Jim was truly trying to compliment him and that he truly saw Jack as someone to be admired because of how far he had come in life.