Here is a practice that will help you begin your journey inhow to uncover truth to your language. It will alsochange your hearing process anytime you speak. Afterlistening consciously to your words, then and only then, canyou begin a strong path to attractiveness. Also, hearing andacknowledging what you said takes courage. Is it easy tolisten to yourself? Heck no. To me, my voice sounds likechalk squeaking on a blackboard. Focus on outcome tomove past squeal. The shift in attractiveness is wellworth practice.

Audio record your telephone conversations. Just your sideof conversation. There isn't any country or state lawsthat affect you since they are one sided as there is inrecording two-way conversations or in-person conversations.And you don't have to ask other person’s permission.

Extra tip: This is also a great way to improve yourmarketing and telephone skills as well.

Listen to recording. Listen for incompletesentences, unfinished thoughts, and vocal expressiveness orflatness. Did you really say what you meant? What wasn'tsaid that you thought you said? What wasn't finished andyou thought was finished? What words were slung together thatattracted opposite of what you wanted?

Extra tip: Tape record your conversations with yourchildren. We become so comfortable with those we love thatour language sabotages our relationships frequently.Especially with teenagers.

Awareness and acknowledgment are first two steps tochanging anything. We can't do either without hearing itfirst. And you can't change what you don't acknowledge.Attractive language allows you to walk a different paththrough life. Take leap, find just enough courage topractice this exercise, it may be painful at times, but itwill rewrite your life and all those that touch it.

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I know that my own happiness is dependent upon me - no one else. When you burden another human being with responsibility for your own happiness, you're setting them up for failure and yourself up for pain.

I've learned that when you look to someone to complete you, you drain their very being. Most folks have enough problems dealing with themselves - their own dreams and fears and flaws and responsibilities. When you find someone to complement you - then you can find out what real friendship is, what real unconditional love is - what real peace is.

I've learned that I don't need a man. Sure, there's a lot I miss. I miss hugs, laughs, strength, partnership, feeling that I'm not always in this 'all alone'. And it's ok to miss those things. But I don't NEED one. Someday I will probably want another relationship. But I don't have to have one now - because I'm finally learning who I am and what I'm capable of - and it's much more than I ever gave myself credit for. And that is super cool.

I know that I've lived majority of my 40 years for someone else - a parent, a husband, a child - and that's ok - it taught me, molded me, strengthened me. I wouldn't change pattern of my life if I could. But when you finally figure out who you are - and further, figure out that you LIKE who you are, difference in level of chaos inside is absolutely astounding.

I am me, I like me, there's things I am working to change and there's things that I'm very proud of - but no matter what, I like me - no matter WHAT someone else thinks or says.

That is ultimate freedom - and one you can't teach your children - they just have to learn it - maybe backwards. And that's ok, too.