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same time, you need to be able to read level of “buy in” from other person. They may say they’re going to do project, call person, raise annual fund 100%, buy your product, or give you a promotion “some day,” but, since 90% of most communication is nonverbal …wouldn’t it be better if you have studied Emotional Intelligence?
AT-HOME APPLICATION
Our work is important to us, but our home is where we live. If your relationships at home aren’t going well, nothing at work will matter. And sad thing is, most of time if you aren’t get along at one place, you aren’t at other. Why? Because we don’t leave “ourselves” behind when we leave for work in morning.
This is not to say applications are same – because an intimate relationship is different from a work relationship, but only in some areas. Increasing your intimacy and parenting skills is part of emotional intelligence. Couples who communicate better have better marriages, and one of best things you can give your children is knowledge of Emotional Intelligence and good modeling of emotionally intelligent behavior.
MULTICULTURAL APPLICATION
Walk in any office today, or any family gathering, and you are going to have people from different cultures, yes? This means you can no longer predict how people are going to behave. In one culture, you show up on hour. In another culture, you show up 15 minutes late. In still another, it’s an hour late. These cultural differences affect our daily lives more all time, and strong Emotional Intelligence skills are required in order to manage them.
BEING IN THE KNOW
As more people learn about Emotional Intelligence, it’s going to be important that you stay in loop. Get in early. It’s emotionally intelligent thing to do!
HOW TO LEARN EQ?
One of most important things to understand about Emotional Intelligence is that, unlike some other life skills, it can’t be learned ONLY be reading. There are Internet courses you can take, and books and ebooks you can read, but you need to work with someone such as a certified Emotional Intelligence coach who can guide learning process.
It’s difficult to change something you can’t see clearly – and we don’t see ourselves as others see us!
Yes, time usually brings improvements in area of Emotional Intelligence, but you can greatly accelerate learning curve, with great benefits to your life.
HOW TO BEGIN?
Taking an EQ assessment is a logical starting point - http:/ inyurl.com/z94t . Don’t be surprised to see that you’re better at some competencies than others. The ones you are lower in can be raised, because EQ can be learned!
©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . I offer coaching, distance learning, and ebooks around emotional intelligence for your continued personal and professional development. Transition, career and relationship coaching. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.
