Business Coaching Legacy: Reflections on What You Want to Leave Behind?Written by Ruth Zanes
Continued from page 1
Few of us have wherewithal to create a legacy of magnitude of Nobel Prizes. But all of us can recreate opportunity Alfred Nobel had in looking at his legacy and then taking steps to change it if it displeases us.
Most of us never stop to think of legacy we would like to leave. How do you find out what legacy you would like to leave? Here are two exercises that will help you clarify your thoughts on subject. The first is to write your own eulogy. Warning! This can be an emotional exercise, so keep box of tissues close at hand. Make sure you are alone and in an environment where you will not be disturbed. Before you start, take a few deep breaths, close your eyes and visualize your funeral. Be objective. If you were to die tomorrow, what would be said about you? Look it over. If eulogy you write does not please you, write down what you do want to be said about you. Look this eulogy over and decide what actions you would need to take now in order to create legacy you really want to leave. Notice that legacy you want to leave has little to do with your business or job. It is about kind of person you were, who you were being when you were at work, with your family, or handling a difficult situation.
The second exercise is to imagine that you had everything you needed. Write down words to complete sentence "If I had__________ I would________________." What changes would you have to make in your life to live a life consistent with your dreams? This is your real legacy. What is your stand? How do you live your life?
Here are some immediate actions you may want to consider taking, with regard to your legacy.
1) If you don't have a will, call a lawyer and make an appointment today.
2) If you have a will, review it. Is it up-to-date in terms of your circumstances today? Does language in will say anything that could be construed as hurtful or damaging by anyone? Are you giving from a generous heart or are you attempting to control living from grave?
3) Ask your accountant if its time to do estate planning.
5) Now, today start creating your true legacy.
Copyright Unlimited Resources 2000, all rights reserved.
Ruth Zanes has been a Business, Career and Personal Success Coach since 1985. Her broad range of experience prior to coaching includes consultant, business ownership and corporate executive for some of the world’s largest corporations. Contact Ruth at: http://www.unlimitedresourcesinc.com
Love Could Be An Errand AwayWritten by Toni Coleman, LCSW
Continued from page 1
* Become a great conversationalist. Yes, anyone can master this. It's about focusing on other person, deeply listening and offering interesting, upbeat thoughts and topics. With a stranger, keep it simple. After first exchange, ask them easy questions about themselves. Not too personal or probing. "So, if you come here a lot to eat, you must live/work nearby." "I've been here a few times, but don't think I've seen you before." Or offer something about yourself. "I'm a vegetarian and this is best shop for meatless sandwiches that I have found." You get it - safe, pleasant ways to ask about them, share about you and keep conversation going. "On nice days like this I often eat in park down street- want to join me?"
* Use common sense and take precautions with any strangers. He's very cute, but so was Ted Bundy. Never give out your home number, address or any personal information to someone you have just met "on street." Most people completely understand and agree with this kind of caution and would not be offended if you explained your need to only give a first name, work phone number or an email address. If this first meeting leads to an offer to get together again, accept by all means if it feels right. But plan to meet in a public place until you have more information about them. Once you have had a few meetings/dates, you can exchange home phone numbers and more personal information.
* Close deal. So, you two have been standing in line and talking while your sandwiches were being made. You are very interested and don't want to just say good-bye. What can you do? You can reiterate that you eat here a few times a week and tell them that you hope to see them on Wednesday at around noon. You can pick up on something they might have shared such as their participation on their workplace sponsored softball team. " My team will be playing on mall on Sunday at 4, when do you guys play?" Perhaps we will play opposite each other and can talk after game." Of course, there's always suggestion of eating your sandwiches together at that park down street...
Joining singles clubs and groups, posting personal ads and/or doing volunteer work are all great ways to try to connect with compatible, available singles. However, they are not only way. Many great loves started from chance meetings in couple's everyday world. So, get out there, really mingle and open your mind to possibility that when you go around next corner you will come fact to face with Mr/Ms Right.
Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship coach who has been quoted in many publications including: The Chicago Tribune and The Orlando Sentinel newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, and Star magazines. She has been featured on ABC News; Discovery Health Channel and AOL Online. She is a weekly contributing commentator on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni founded Consum-mate.com in 2002.