5. Remind them we're more alike than we are different.

This is a great opportunity to help everyone see that kids with special needs are really just kids. You've already addressed how he or she is different, now spend some time talking about how s/he's just like them. Help lay groundwork for future friendships by talking about all "regular kid" things your current class member or invited guest. Practice a simple conversation about their interests that you & special needs child can have in front of class. Not only does child have opportunity to share about themselves, but also you demonstrate how to communicate with him/her in a very non-threatening way.

6. Answer questions honestly & address fears.

This is probably most important thing you can do. Allow as much time as this takes so that you've answered all questions to best of your ability. It will probably help to think through some possible questions & answers ahead of time just so you can phrase your answers in kid-friendly words. If you're not sure what questions they may ask, think back to when you first heard child's diagnosis. What questions did you have? Chances are their classmates will have similar fears. Can he play games with us? Will I hurt her? How do I ask her a question? Will she ever be able to ……? (talk, run, etc.)

Hopefully these tips will encourage you to include stories as a frequent awareness tool in your home or classroom. If you are interested but not sure what books to use, you can find some excellent choices listed here:

For kids age 4-8: http://www.ideallives.com/generic.jhtml?pid=81

For kids age 9-12: http://www.ideallives.com/generic.jhtml?pid=125

© 2001, Lisa Simmons

3. Use sign(s) before or during activity, and show your baby sign every time you do activity.

4. Use your chosen sign(s) until your baby begins to sign back to you, then choose another sign and start process over again. The more signs your baby knows, easier it will be for him or her to pick them up.

Some parents have started signing from birth, but parents I've talked to have reported success from six or seven months. It usually takes some time before a child begins to sign back to you. You will probably notice that he or she recognizes and understands sign before attempting to sign it. For example, I started signing when my son was 11 months old and he first signed back to me five weeks later.

There are many resources online and sign language dictionaries in local library, as well as books specific to this subject.

The key to success is to be consistent, show a smile, applaud your child's efforts and be patient. Someday, you will be attracting attention at mall, too! And you will know so much more about what is going on in your baby's head, and your bond will be that much closer.

Good luck!