Biting the hand that feeds youWritten by Charlie Badenhop
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3. Reward negative behavior and thus reframe meaning of behavior. When you reward "bad" behavior, behavior is no longer bad. The parrot bites your right hand and you reward him by giving a snack with your left hand. The relationship is circular in nature. It doesn't take long before parrot loses his enthusiasm for biting you. He still very much wants snacks you feed him after each attack, but he would rather not have to do all of biting to get goodies. 4. Blur starting and stopping points, blur difference between good and bad. The parrot has been biting one hand and you have been nuzzling parrot and feeding him with your other hand. Now take hand that has been doing nuzzling and feeding and present it to parrot for biting. When parrot takes a playful nip, you nuzzle him with hand he was previously gnawing on. When you encourage parrot to bite hand that feeds him! His confusion will be obvious. 5. Change reason for reward. After "break in" period you only give a snack when parrot is gentle and playful. Little by little you thus change reference behavior for getting snack. Usually at this stage, anyone that moves slowly can play with parrot with little concern about getting bitten. I have found above method, to be by far fastest, easiest, and most humane way to tame a parrot, and calm down children that appear to have a violent streak.
Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas and a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter "Pure Heart, Simple Mind" at http://www.seishindo.org/anger/index.html .
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Next, Frank would teach dog to pick up piece of carpet himself, and carry it to wherever they were going. The dog would then set piece of carpet down when they stopped, and sit on top of it, with Frank all of time praising him for being a good dog. Now Frank said, "The dog begins to feel that he truly belongs in every place that he travels to, and no matter where he goes, he receives my love and appreciation. Soon dog takes on this love and appreciation as primary core of his identity." And I ask you now, if this strategy works so brilliantly with dogs, would same basic strategy not work just as well with human beings? Ask youself, "What is small piece of carpet you carry around with you wherever you go?" "Would your life not be very different if you changed your piece of carpet to one of self love and appreciation?"
Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas and a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter "Pure Heart, Simple Mind" at http://www.seishindo.org/anger/index.html .
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