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4) What can a potential partner or employer do for YOU? What are you hoping to gain with an alliance? Is it something you could or ought to be doing yourself? For example, as we talked about last month, we all need to learn how to self-market, but different models support our intentions.
5) Are you confident that you can negotiate well on your own behalf? If not, what data/skills/knowledge do you need so you can?
6) Before you seek alliances, write a mock ad about what you are seeking in another person or organization and include all
necessary details such as integrity, work hours, skills, personal style, etc. that are essential for a positive outcome.
7) SHOP AROUND. Be picky and value yourself enough to take your time. Know what you want and write down every hesitation you uncover. As with any relationship, readiness is key. Both parties have to be on
same wavelength at
same time.
8) Set up an experiment with one project before you decide about a long term affiliation. Trust is earned! Face up to
truth–whatever happens. You can find
right people and
best model for you, but be sure and subtract
colleagues and organizations that fail YOUR test!
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1. What kind of collaborations sound like FUN to you?
2. In what circumstances do you love to be in control and when do you long for company and input?
3. Do a 360 feedback exercise on yourself and ask your friends and lovers, co-workers, peers, associates, etc. how you excel as a person and a professional and where you let yourself and others down.
4. Then visualize attracting
right circle of influence for YOU!
(c)2003 Gail McMeekin
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Gail McMeekin, LICSW is a national Career/creativity coach and writer on personal, professional, and creative development. Author of The 12 Secrets of Highly Creative Women: A Portable Mentor and The Power of Positive Choices, both with Conari Press. Subscribe to her FREE monthly email newsletter Creative Success by clicking on her website: http://www.creativesuccess.com.