Beyond the Arch of Swords: Making Military Marriage Last

Written by Barbara Eastom Bates

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Staying close is important for all couples—even those separated only as far asrepparttar next room inrepparttar 122025 house. Military requirements are not necessarily easier simply because you sharerepparttar 122026 same living space. Long hours and demanding occupational specialties coupled with family responsibilities, can leave evenrepparttar 122027 closest couples with little time to connect. Having that connection however, isrepparttar 122028 glue that sticks families together throughrepparttar 122029 trials of military life. Yet, survivingrepparttar 122030 trials is onlyrepparttar 122031 first step towards a successful military marriage. Couples must also learn to make something positive ofrepparttar 122032 challenges and come to understand that each challenge is just another opportunity in disguise for growth, both as individuals and as a couple.

Emily Travis chose to go back to school in her husband’s absence—something she feels she would not have chosen to do otherwise. “Todd is having a multitude of new experiences and I know he’ll be different because of them when he comes home,” she relates. “That makes me want to have new experiences and better myself too. I think it’s important not to stagnate myself and stop growing, just because I’m waiting to be reunited with my husband.”

Deployments, separations, and evenrepparttar 122033 most successful career inrepparttar 122034 military will eventually end, but marriage is meant to last a lifetime. It is a lessonrepparttar 122035 Wallace’s learned early. “Did we have problems? Absolutely. Were there times I wanted to say it’srepparttar 122036 Marine Corps or me? Yes. And were there times we were so thick inrepparttar 122037 middle of our difficulties we couldn’t see a way out? Most definitely. But those wererepparttar 122038 times we dug in our heels and just held on. Everything changes. It was just a matter of holding on until better days came, and when they did, we were amazed at how much closer we were for having endured together, and how much our marriage had been strengthened by our faith to stay.”

A party was recently given in honor of John and Melissa by co-workers and friends from Camp Pendleton. John gave a speech about his time inrepparttar 122039 Corps and what it meant to have Melissa by his siderepparttar 122040 whole way. He spoke of his years of service,repparttar 122041 happiness they had shared andrepparttar 122042 tears they had shed. He talked ofrepparttar 122043 achievements and honors he had gained inrepparttar 122044 Corps. Yet, to sum up, he had only one thing to say. “I amrepparttar 122045 Marine,” relates John, “but Melissa gives merepparttar 122046 heart.”

Barbara Eastom-Bates has been married to the Marine Corps for eight years, and is the mother of two children. She is the author of the upcoming release, "Basic Training for Brides-to-Be," and develops quality of life media for LIFELines Services Network. Her work additionally appears in Good Sense and Military Spouse magazines.

The History of Pearls

Written by Brannon Smith

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The ancient Greeks also believed pearls should be a part ofrepparttar wedding. They thought pearls would bring love and all guests ofrepparttar 122024 wedding were adorned in pearls. Pearls were sacred wedding gems given as gifts andrepparttar 122025 word “pearl” became highly associated with “love.”

Religious writings also contain references to pearls. Early Christian writings, in conjunction withrepparttar 122026 Virgin Mary and Jesus, speak ofrepparttar 122027 value of pearls. The famous metaphor found inrepparttar 122028 Bible warns of casting pearls before swine, comparingrepparttar 122029 gems to something of value to be held close and not flaunted or shared with those who are unworthy or unappreciative of such beauty.

The Spanish used to force slaves to dive for pearls alongrepparttar 122030 Atlantic and Pacific Coasts of Central America. French explorers found Native Americans wearing pearls. As crusaders, conquerors and Christians traveled aroundrepparttar 122031 world, so didrepparttar 122032 beauty and rarity of pearls. Because ofrepparttar 122033 popularity of pearls from 1524-1658 it was known asrepparttar 122034 pearl age in Europe.

In more recent history, Iowa used to berepparttar 122035 center of trade for mother of pearl buttons until World War II when newly invented plastic took over fromrepparttar 122036 quality pearl buttons.

Brannon is an Affiliate Manager for Center Cube, Inc. Brannon is fascinated by the origin, beauty, and quality of pearls. For a pearl necklace visit

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