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In reality, many different relationship dynamics are possible between two people. Simply because you feel controlled or feel distance in one relationship does not mean same thing will happen to you in every relationship with any person.
To change this, get to know and build friendships with couples who are not as you described above. Work on realizing just how many different relationships are around you and what kind of a relationship you want.
3. Complete following sentence with a few words that readily come to mind:
I deserve many positive things in a partner, except _________________, which I don't feel I deserve.
Have you ever been given these kinds of things from others? If you have, was it because you earned these somehow or did something to become deserving?
How does one come to deserve love, attention, affection, time? Many singles secretly believe only way they will get love is to somehow buy it - either literally by spending money in a relationship, or figuratively by over-compromising themselves. Others believe they simply deserve only what they have been given in past, which was often not enough.
The third step in fixing a broken partner-picker is to realize that you deserve love, attention, affection, time, etc. You don't have to do anything to earn it except to be yourself. This is your inherent right as a human being.
To change your feelings about what you deserve, get to know and build friendships with people who readily give you THE thing you feel you do not deserve.
Complete this exercise with a friend and share your results with each other. Get some feedback from people who care about you on ideas you came up with. With this feedback, you will be well on your way to fixing that pesky partner-picker.
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