It's like they say about prayer: If there is a decision to be made and you pray and pray and pray about it, eventually you must go with trust that WHATEVER decision you make - will be right one. You must trust and not second-guess yourself. Boy, what a tough assignment!

Doubt, others’ opinions, and second-guessing can cause more stress and anxiety then making original decision. Follow your instincts to block out doubt and trust in decisions that you make. You will end up seeing validations that you did right thing. It will be further confirmation that if you are true to yourself universe will support you!

If in end you both decide you have enough in common to pursue relationship further, you will need to negotiate how relationship is actually conducted. You will need to agree, disagree or negotiate to uphold verbalized parameters in your relationship.

I know this probably sounds very unromantic, almost artificial. But believe me, this is how best relationships are created.

The two of you are much better off entering a relationship with your eyes open, knowing what is expected of you, what you can expect in return, what you can count on from your relationship.

This extended conversation allows for absence of power struggle. It fosters harmony and ease of being together. It will give two of you rare opportunity to establish deep intimacy.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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