Be Selfish and Save the World

Written by David Parton

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Make your happiness and peace of mind your number one priority. Once you have that you haverepparttar power to really affect change. Helping others is a wonderful thing. Look atrepparttar 105881 global efforts to helprepparttar 105882 Tsunami victims and affected areas. You could rationalize it and say that helping isrepparttar 105883 right thing to do, that contributing to any good cause isrepparttar 105884 right thing to do. I agree.

But, we are not motivated by our intellect or rationalizations. It is emotion that moves us to act. Helping out makes us feel good and inversely we know that watching others suffer and not helping when we know we can will make us feel miserable. We don' t want to make ourselves unhappy.

If you can truly be honest with yourself you will see that beneath allrepparttar 105885 sentiment is a need to tend to our own happiness. I like to volunteer because it makes me feel good. That isrepparttar 105886 bottom line. The rest is just window-dressing. I have a selfish desire to feel good and so do you. There is nothing wrong with that.

Yoga, meditation and prayer make me feel good, too. Can you call those selfish pursuits? How about attending church or worshipping your higher power? Do those things make you feel good? Of course they do or you would not do them. If pursuing your own emotional well-being and feeling good is not what you would consider selfish, than I think thatrepparttar 105887 term "selfish" is highly misunderstood.

Tend to your "self" first. Be selfish. Then and only then can you really make a difference.

- David Parton 2005

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Polar Power: Do Opposites Attract?

Written by Luigi Di Serio

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Sorepparttar mystery has been solved, opposites really do attract? Actually… Not really. In part II we will explore why “the opposite’s attract” notion is a double-edged sword inrepparttar 105880 world of dating and gender interaction.


It is pretty common knowledge that opposites attract. We know that magnets with opposite polarity attract, sorepparttar 105881 common cliché is actually a law of nature. However, rather than boring you with scientific evidence to prove this is true, let me cut right torepparttar 105882 chase: In part one of this article, I argued that opposites do attract, and bothrepparttar 105883 feminine energy andrepparttar 105884 masculine energy are required for attraction to occur (which is mostly an inexplicable chemistry) and for a fulfilling relationship to ensue.

But don’t birds of a feather flock together? And don’t people who “have so much in common” usually have successful relationships? Sure they do. But this contradicts what I’ve been saying all along. Is it similarities or differences that arerepparttar 105885 key to a perfectly balanced union? Therein liesrepparttar 105886 important question, which actually has a much more simple answer than one might think.

According to a University of Iowa study on mating issues (mating based on similar or opposite characteristics), which studied 291 newlyweds that had participated inrepparttar 105887 Iowa Marital Assessment Project, researchers found with very strong evidence that people tend to marry those who are similar in attitudes, religion and values. They also found that these wererepparttar 105888 main reasons why people got married. However, it is similarity in personality that appears to be more important in having a happy marriage. The findings appear inrepparttar 105889 February 2005 issue ofrepparttar 105890 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published byrepparttar 105891 American Psychological Association (APA). The couples were assessed on a broad range of personality characteristics, attitudes and relationship quality indicators.

The research suggested that, “there is no evidence that opposites attract.” The study was fascinating and comprehensive, but their conclusion wasn’t. The word “attraction” usually refers torepparttar 105892 initial feelings a person has that spark an interest inrepparttar 105893 other. So inrepparttar 105894 realms of courting dating and sexuality, being opposite and different, is fulfilling in many ways. Mystery, anticipation and excitement, curiosity and adventure all come from experiencing something different. Sure opposites clash, but that is often whererepparttar 105895 sparks andrepparttar 105896 passion is created. You can create heat without any friction (know what I mean?)

This is where many couples that start off well go really wrong. Many relationships are built onrepparttar 105897 foundation of sexual attraction or simply lust. Those are fleeting feelings and certainly not enough to make a relationship work. If people don’t wantrepparttar 105898 same things, or have different values and beliefs,repparttar 105899 relationship is bound for failure.

Personality and attitude similarities are VERY important also. But these characteristics often come out later, as a relationship progresses and eventually settles. Frequently people are too involved byrepparttar 105900 time they realizerepparttar 105901 differences and people often “settle” while feeling unfulfilled.

Opposites attract in dating, courting and during escalated sexual tension, but opposites certainly clash when it comes to personality, attitudes and values. So to haverepparttar 105902 best of both worlds, you must establish and lay out your beliefs, values and what you want out of life right away. Masculine energies and feminine energies are opposites, but do not cause harmful and destructive clashes in relationships when they are balanced out.

"Jack of all trades and master of none"... Luigi Di Serio is an ad hoc, freelance writer and web site developer who owns over 100 web sites! He holds a degree in Urban Planning and is specialized in strategic business intelligence, security, espionage, sociology and human interactionism (including relationships).

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