Be Kinder and Gentler to Yourself

Written by Virginia Reeves


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Your spiritual state also needs to be nurtured with kindness and gentleness. Take time to do things for yourself, things that you enjoy and want to do on your own terms and time frame. These activities include getting out to enjoy nature's beauty and bounty, quiet time to meditate or enjoy your religious customs, working on a hobby, and spending time with family and friends. Participating in activities that are good for your soul will bring you an inner sense of peace and happiness.

If you are treating yourself in a nice way, you will be comfortable and able to treat others well also. These actions are generally returned in kind and have a way of snowballing. This isrepparttar reverse ofrepparttar 130852 proverbial vicious circle and is certainly a more pleasant track to be running your life on.

A variety of activities and behaviors arerepparttar 130853 key elements to maintaining a desire and interest in being kind and gentle to your physical, mental, and emotional health. Remember - you are lovable as well as capable. In addition to making goals and plans, consider making this "resolution" a positive habit that turns into an ongoing life-long goal.



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Healing The Abandonment Wounds

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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It is often not advisable to seekrepparttar help ofrepparttar 130851 person who activatedrepparttar 130852 wound because:

1) he or she may still be stuck in their own wounded place,repparttar 130853 place that touched off your wound; 2) you might become dependent upon your beloved taking care of you and takingrepparttar 130854 pain away instead of actually healingrepparttar 130855 pain.

Once you are with a safe, nurturing person, or even onrepparttar 130856 phone with a safe person, hold a doll or bear or even a pillow very tightly and breath intorepparttar 130857 pain. Open to learning and allowrepparttar 130858 Inner Child who is in pain to give you information aboutrepparttar 130859 original pain that is still stuck inrepparttar 130860 body. The body holdsrepparttar 130861 memories that you repressed atrepparttar 130862 time, and nowrepparttar 130863 body is releasing these memories. Many images may come up as you open to learning with your Inner Child. Be sure you have your spiritual guidance with you, holding you, surrounding you with love and comfort as you open to learning about this deep pain. In order to truly understand your present reaction, you need to understand what happened to you when you were little. Keep breathing deeply and allowing your Inner Child to inform you, even if you are crying. Tellrepparttar 130864 person helping you what your Child is telling you about what happened to you when you were little. It may take awhile, but gradually you will calm down. At that point, tune into what false beliefs you may have embraced as a child that are affecting you now, and what else your Child needs right now to feel loved and safe.

Being there for your wounded child this way will gradually healrepparttar 130865 abandonment wounds. Ignoring your feelings, trying to make them go away, or trying to get someone else to take them away will only serve to re-wound you. It is only when you no longer abandon yourself thatrepparttar 130866 old wounds begin to heal. Eventually, another's behavior that previously triggered your intense reaction will no longer do so. You may feel sad or lonely when a loved one gets angry or withdraws in some way, but as long as you continue to show up for yourself,repparttar 130867 intense pain will not be there.

Ifrepparttar 130868 pain seems stuck inrepparttar 130869 body no matter what you do, then you need to seek out a practitioner who knows how to release old pain out ofrepparttar 130870 body through acupressure or other bodywork.

Once these old wounds are healing, you will feel a new sense of personal power. Others’ behavior can no longer trigger you into these intensely painful feelings. However, a word of caution: we may think it is healed, only to discover another level when we move into a more intimate relationship, or more intimacy with a present partner. The closerrepparttar 130871 relationship,repparttar 130872 deeperrepparttar 130873 wounds get activated. That is whyrepparttar 130874 primary relationship isrepparttar 130875 most powerful arena for healing there is, and Inner Bonding -repparttar 130876 process outlined here - is a most powerful tool! (See resource box for a FREE Inner Bonding course).

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. isrepparttar 130877 best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com


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