"Bad Boys/Good Boys" -- The Pitfalls Of Being An Insensitive Dad

Written by Lee Wise


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That's my part.

Yours will be to reflect on each aspect as you read it one more time. Reflect on it throughrepparttar lens of how you would have liked to be treated as a young-person-in-the-making.

"I adjust

My expectations

According to

The needs,

Maturity level

And emotional capabilities

Ofrepparttar 111261 child

I am relating to

Atrepparttar 111262 moment."

RESPECT

Respect says...

"I see this person entrusted to my care as one who is worthy of my honor, approval and love."

This mental stance provides for me a frame. A frame I wrap around my child *to begin with.* The child is worthy of my honor, approval and love -- fromrepparttar 111263 beginning.

It is a part ofrepparttar 111264 package each child should *sense* in me from "Day One" so-to-speak.

HUMILITY

Humility says...

"Because I am still learning, I give my child space and time to learn."

"Because I still fail, I forgive and support my child when he or she fails."

"Because I respond poorly when people are angry with me for reasons I do not understand, I resist all uncontrolled and self-centered anger when dealing with my child."

COMPASSION

Compassion says...

"I am a 'show and tell' person.

*I show my child I care. *I tell my child I care."

"I strive to be gentle, not harsh."

"I care and my child senses it."

LOVE

Love says... all ofrepparttar 111265 above.

A DISCLAIMER

Let me make something perfectly clear: children can -- and do -- hurt their parents.

Good parents. Parents who in a very real sense lay down their lives for their kids and still get kicked inrepparttar 111266 guts while trying to help their children be happy and succeed in life.

These parents know a special kind of pain. A pain that no one really wants to understand. I salute those parents.

You may be one of them.

So my disclaimer is...

*I realize this is a two-sided fence

*My purpose is not to add guilt to a conscience already plagued byrepparttar 111267 "Why's" of their child's bad attitudes and behavior -- in spite of hundreds of hours of trying to do what's right.

Rather, if you happen to be one of those parents -- and especially a dad since that isrepparttar 111268 topic of these comments -- I want you to hear these words:

"I thank you for trying."

I thank you for trying and forrepparttar 111269 lonely hours you have spent that only you, and possibly your spouse -- and God -- knows about...

The tears. The heartache andrepparttar 111270 pain that goes on and on as each new report surfaces about some action or attitude your child has displayed."

For those times, tears and heartache -- I reflect to you my appreciation. And I'm sure I represent only one of many voices that would echorepparttar 111271 same to you if they could. Therefore, review these comments and take note of each positive thing you have done. Take a bow. You deserve it."

Yours for a day filled with beautiful moments in time,

Lee ------------------------------- Lee is a seminary administrator, has a part-time business at home, and writes two motivational ezines: "A Beautiful Moment In Time" and "Hope For Daily Living." Permission is given to distribute article. This paragraph must be included. Email: Lee@motivation-for-daily-living.net Link: http://www.motivation-for-daily-living.net

Lee is a Seminary Administrator, has a part-time home business, and enjoys writing two family friendly ezines that are motivational in nature.


Your Child's Most Basic Needs!

Written by Frank W. Thatcher Jr.


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Getting enough water is an important aspect of brain function. It is especially important for children. Water assists digestion, washes away toxins, aidsrepparttar lungs, heart, and blood vessels and energizesrepparttar 111260 brain and body.

Water hasrepparttar 111261 amazing ability to enliven us, fosteringrepparttar 111262 development of energetic, naturally curious, and more focused children. We need to teach our childrenrepparttar 111263 importance of drinking enough water all day long.

Water is best taken in frequent small amounts. Parents and teachers should make sure all children have easy access to water and, if possible, carry their own water bottle throughoutrepparttar 111264 day. Parents can set a good example, and would be wise to carry a water bottle with them and drink from it.

Many of us have a habit of choosing soft drinks, carbonated beverages and juices over water. Frequent sugary drinks causerepparttar 111265 blood to become too sweet, fluid is drawn out of body cells to diluterepparttar 111266 high sugar levels inrepparttar 111267 blood, this then leads to thirst and dehydration inrepparttar 111268 child. De-hydration results in poor concentration and short attention span.

Also, It is a well documented fact that sugary drinks cause tooth decay.

Teaching by example is one ofrepparttar 111269 bests way to educate. Choose water instead of drinks and you will seerepparttar 111270 difference. The children will learn from our example and will benefit many, many ways by having this most fundamental need met.



Frank W. Thatcher Jr. is an experienced educator specializing in children and their special needs. For additional information regarding what you can do towards raising happy children, click http://www.onlineshoppersmarket.com/parenting1.html


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