Remember, failing once at something is simply a learning exercise, which tells you that way you have just tried isn't working It's not asking you to give up, it's simply closing one door. All you need to do is find another door and open it. It is this attitude that will build your self-confidence, as you will be learning along way and amending your application and plan.

It is this reviewing as you go followed by adjust, amend and focus that allows you to choose wisely. Nevertheless, you must choose. You can't expect other people to make your choices for you. Sure, others will assist you but final choice will always be up to you. You will occasionally choose poorly along way. In fact, you will almost with certainty choose poorly quite regularly at beginning.

This is normal and to be expected. How else do you get experience that we all so desperately long to have? It is our decisions, which give us experience to make further and more highly informed decisions along way.

Can you see how your confidence can build here? As your confidence grows in your abilities, you will become more able. They are directly linked.

You will need to take risks along way. Dependant upon your personality will be level of risk you take. If you have a Managed Investment Portfolio then look at level of risk you have invested, this will give you a good indication of how much risk you will take. It will show you how far out on a limb you may go out of your comfort zone, in order to get what it is you really want. If you don't have such a policy, then draw a parallel. You could write down what your definition of "risk" really is and use it as a guide.

Your self-confidence grows as you grow. This gives you a broader understanding of your options, which allows you to make knowledgeable decisions, utilizing your power of choice. Choice needs to be learned. At beginning, there is only one option. If we decide on that route then we haven't taken full advantage of our birthright. Every other species on this earth has not got level of choice that is available to us. Don't let anyone push your buttons. Choose to push them yourself as you pursue your goals choosing to become successful.

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There are things that do or do not make it easier for you to work. But it always boils down to this: YOU have to work.

"Work?!" -- Maynard G. Krebs

Yes, work. Hard work. Putting in your time. Paying your dues.

If what you're doing isn't working for you then, for God's sake, do it differently. Or do something else.

If you don't want to do that, it's fine by me. I don't mind. It's even reasonable. But, if that's what you decide, be honest about it: That's what you decided.

"What about all those Internet companies on news that went belly up? How can I hope to succeed?"

What about all Internet companies that did NOT go belly up? ... and are doing just fine, thank you very much. If you want to focus on how airliners crash, watch news. If you want to focus on what works in airline industry, go to airport. It's your choice.

Just don't say, "It doesn't work!"

I've been hearing that since I was in fifth grade. Now I'm 49 -- you do math (it depresses me). And I'm so sick of it that I could puke.