Responsible. My children see how I prepare and follow through, owning up to my responsibilities. They learn by my example.

Safety/Security I take safety very seriously and my children know it. They have learned by my examples, for instance: I always wear a helmet when skating, skiing or bicycle riding, and I take first-aid and CPR classes. Our car does not go into motion until all seat belts, including mine, are on. Primary

Advocate My children know that I stand behind them and will protect, defend and honor them at all times. I do not discuss my children's failings with others.

Serious Humor I deliberately use humor liberally to lighten stress and lubricate relationships to ensure a cohesive family.

WYSIWYG What you see is what you get. I practice what I preach and that includes accepting human frailty and mistakes. The greatest foundation for a family is living with integrity.

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First, do no harm! I communicate to foster understanding and growth but never to hurt. "Sticks and stones..." I know my words can cut deeper, and resulting wounds take longer to heal.

I tell stories that speak to heart. When I speak from heart, my words penetrate other's hearts. Parables and personal stories are easy to accept and are rarely accusatory, though often funny and informative.

I articulate nuances. I use a rich vocabulary to communicate distinctions that will help to raise awareness and expand my family’s appreciation of life.

I understand power of my touch. From a gentle touch on cheek, to a vigorous backrub, to wrestling on floor, I communicate my love through powerful medium of touch. And I know when to refrain as well.

I share what's there. I discuss difficult issues that warrant open communication without fear. I believe open communication will lead to greatest family unity, even though journey may be difficult.

My actions are congruent with my values. I am keenly aware that my actions speak louder than my words. The best communication is when words and actions match perfectly. Values in action...

Copyright 2004 by CoachVille, Dovid Grossman and Ken Mossman Duplication, with attribution, permitted and encouraged. http://www.CoachVille.com