However, it is I believe worthwhile to look for lessons that exist in both good and bad in our lives. Being careful not to dwell on negative. Remember, there is a huge difference between dwelling on - and simply learning from and moving past something.

Here's wishing you great success along journey of life, Josh Hinds

Bear in mind there are no guarantees on Internet you won’t meet a louse, pervert, felon, liar, or promiscuous married man. There are no guarantees about this in real life, either. There are some obvious clues to watch for: refusing to share a photo, using foul language, asking for money, being domineering, moving too fast, preoccupation with sex, inappropriate site names such as “SexTrain,” signs of desperation, or being inconsistent or evasive about details.

The best rule of thumb is if it makes you feel uneasy, use “delete” key. You begin with email correspondence, so take your time. You’ll get quicker about catching on to bad signs as you practice.

Always remember to protect yourself. Don’t give your personal email address or home phone number until you’re reasonably sure. Never agree to meet someone in a remote or peculiar location. If in doubt, don’t. If it’s good, it will stand test of time.

The best way to begin is to make a list about your expectations – not just their age and appearance, but their conduct. Then work with a coach to brush up on your skills and provide valuable feedback. When you set up your profile, be honest about your personal habits, lifestyle, and what you’re looking for in a man. When you learn something that works, stick with it. For instance if you read someone’s profile that’s worded better than yours, go back in and tweak yours.

Men’s first attraction is visual (physical), so get a good recent photograph of yourself. Some people are more photogenic than others, but it’s unfair to use a photograph that’s 5 years old, or that represents you before gaining or losing 30 pounds. Be proud of who you are, represent it as best you can, and hope man does same.

For more tips, including how to identify a married man early-on, see my ebook, “Midlife Dating Survival for Women.”

Good luck!