2. Take stock of how you have behaved in previous relationships. Since by definition you are single, your past relationships have not worked out for whatever reason. And like it or not, that makes you at least 50% responsible for them not working out.

Get clarity on what you contributed to those relationships not working out. Be kind to yourself as you do this. Do not make it an excuse to beat your self up all over again.

3. Review your beliefs about relationships. What do you think should happen at different stages – from courtship to living together? What are your entrenched beliefs about opposite sex? For example, from your cultural heritage, what are expected roles and duties of a partner?

4. Get clear about what you want in a relationship. Make fulfilment of your short term and long term needs criteria for choosing a partner. 5. Define and get clear about your ideal relationship and partner. Be realistic, and ask what your needs are rather than your wants. What must your relationship have? What are absolute essentials for you to thrive? 6. Socialise and have fun so as to create a varied, rich life and to be part of a healthy supportive community, and to enhance your life. You will therefore focus not so much on meeting your partner and more on creating a rich vibrant life, one which will be so attractive to a potentially dream catch. Most people usually socialise in various ways so as to meet their dream partner, and by simply having fun and enjoying your life you become so much more attractive.

Make your life work and make room for your ideal partner. Once you have your life working for you, and you are happy, you will indeed attract right partner.

Remember, you deserve best. And that includes a dream relationship and ideal partner. Don’t accept second best. Get clear about what you want in your life partner and why – and you can have it.

Please call me on +44 20 7286 8655 for a complimentary coaching consultation. Alternatively email me at arvind@nirvanacoaching.com

Arvind Devalia MBA Committed to Contribution and Connection.

"Transform your Life - make it Extraordinary"

Nirvana Coaching Ltd 76 Hamilton Terrace St Johns Wood London NW8 9UL

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Also, when you’re rehearsing with your band – one of most biggest things that most musicians miss out is to work on elements of performance beyond playing their individual instruments together. Ensure you work on movements, gestures, interactions with other band members, talk between songs, taking mic off stand, running out into audience. Such things may seem really simple but there not ordinary behaviour so make sure you get some vital practice and preparation in. Future newsletters may include resources to developing these skills effectively.

It’s also great to assess how well prepared you are mentally for event. I use a set of questions that I came up with to assess my own readiness to perform, and I’d like to share them with you.

It will open as a Microsoft Word document. If you would like some musicians development coaching via email, send through your completed attachment to info@coachkavit.com and I’ll be happy to work with you to making most out of your performance.

Are You Ready To Perform? http://www.coachkavit.com/docs/readytoperform.doc