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Perhaps, your problems at work are causing you to distance yourself from your wife. Then, this appears as a problem at home, which then affects you at work. Then, you let them all go for so long that it seems nearly impossible to resolve. The problems, however, can be resolved by defining issues and determining underlying problem, or desire.
--- Resolving Unresolvable ---
Once you figure out various issues in your life and find that there is one common theme, or thread, to all of issues, you now have to do two things: make a plan to resolve core problem, and make a plan for your life.
Understand that many times, common threaded problems occur because you have no place else to go in your life. With that, you amplify small problems, create new problems simply because you have nothing better to do, or get caught up in small problems that expand into other areas of your life. Without a direction and a path to travel, you have no choice but to stay and deal with problem instead of resolving and moving on to other things.
Everyone needs a direction and everyone must have some type of destination ... you need a place to go and be. This sounds like I'm heading back to idea of running away to mountains. Actually, you are running to mountains, but not physically. You are creating a destination that you want to run toward --- satisfying a desire. As you head toward that vision, you are accomplishing goals, learning, becoming stronger, and resolving issues as you "move" through life.
--- Mission, Vision, and Goals ---
In previous e-books and articles, I mentioned need to create an action plan based on your Vision, Mission, and Goals. I called it a "Business Plan for Life." Your action plan contains researched and planned steps that you take to clarify your life, resolve your current issues to clear your path, and move toward a specific Vision that you see as "Your Life."
It is important to understand your Vision. But, you have to be clear when defining your Vision. Clarity comes from understanding your current situations and being able to clear these situations such that your life is more balanced. By clearing, I don't mean eliminating everything from your life. I mean eliminating kinks that certain situations cause in fabric of your life. This means coming to terms with certain issues and getting rid of other things that are no longer of any use to you (e.g., past fears, current petty problems that seem insurmountable, etc.)
Once your Vision is set, you have to define your Mission. Your Mission defines mechanism that you will use to reach your Vision. It is your overall idea, theme, of your action plan. When defining your Mission, picture your Vision as a bright light with a clear path right up to center. This path is your Mission.
With your Mission defined, you must define Goals to be accomplished to successfully traverse your Mission. These Goals are steps involved to incrementally approach and reach your Vision based on mechanism defined in your Mission. Each step is a "baby step" or a "bite sized" piece of entire journey. By defining your Goals, you are able to take an overwhelming journey and break it into manageable and measurable pieces that slowly build to help you reach your ultimate Vision.
Finally, your action plan contains actual pieces of puzzle that identify physical actions you must take for each Goal. This action plan is your prioritized map that defines what you will do every day to accomplish a Goal. This map allows you to measure your progress and better understand where you are in your journey. Additionally, by examining Goals as you go, you can make adjustments to your plan to make sure that your Mission is on track and your Vision is clear.
--- What's next? ---
Simplifying your life does not have to involve a complete elimination of your worldly existence. Nor does it have to be escape to some remote region of planet. When you feel that desire to "run to mountains" or get rid of everything in your life, that's a sign that you need to change something in your life and get moving. It is your inner self that is telling you to wake up and go.
Simplifying your life means that you want to make things easier in all aspects. It can be as simple as eliminating things that are complicated and replacing them with things that have meaning to your direction. I call it "Managing your Life" instead of simplifying because you are not minimizing your life to its bare essentials, but you are taking an already full life and removing kinks to make path smoother.
A simple life does not have to contain nothing. A simple life can be full and contain numerous tangents and paths, but it is void of issues that unnecessarily complicate things that mean most to you.
Edward B. Toupin is a writer and Life Coach living in the Entertainment Capital of the World. He works with individuals to help them realize their potential and establish the directions that will bring them the most fulfillment. Contact Edward at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information on defining a plan for a more fulfilling life.