6. Make impact known. How would a "yes" or a "no" impact you? Does person you are asking know impact of a "yes" or a "no?" Small things can and do have a profound impact. So get clear on impact a "yes" or a "no" will have on you. Share this information with person you are asking.

7. Honor his or her requests. You're not only one who wants to get what you want. Others want to hear "yes" and have their needs met, too. If you consistently give others what they want, you will get what you want more often. The key is to give and do what someone requests...not what you *think* they want. A word of caution here - do not over give to point of being unappreciated.

8. Don't ever nag. Nagging is a way of making same request over and over in order to wear person down and force what you want. Nagging might sometimes get you want in short term. But it always backfires because it creates intense anger in both one being nagged and one doing nagging. If you need to repeat a request more than once, do so in spirit of ideas above.

9. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. When you get what you want, make a big deal out of it. The giver just made you feel good, so return favor. The more you appreciate, more other person will want to give to you and do for you. In fact, even if you do not feel appreciative, act appreciative. After a while, you will begin to feel appreciative.

10. Cure the, "I shouldn't have to ask you to do this" syndrome. Ok, how much do you resent asking someone to do something they should have known to do in first place? Don't you get angry at having to ask at all? In such cases, remember he or she is not you, but a different person, with different standards and priories. What may be obvious or natural to you may be very hard or may not even occur to another person. You do have to ask to get what you want. Just do it right.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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Perhaps, your problems at work are causing you to distance yourself from your wife. Then, this appears as a problem at home, which then affects you at work. Then, you let them all go for so long that it seems nearly impossible to resolve. The problems, however, can be resolved by defining issues and determining underlying problem, or desire.

--- Resolving Unresolvable ---

Once you figure out various issues in your life and find that there is one common theme, or thread, to all of issues, you now have to do two things: make a plan to resolve core problem, and make a plan for your life.

Understand that many times, common threaded problems occur because you have no place else to go in your life. With that, you amplify small problems, create new problems simply because you have nothing better to do, or get caught up in small problems that expand into other areas of your life. Without a direction and a path to travel, you have no choice but to stay and deal with problem instead of resolving and moving on to other things.

Everyone needs a direction and everyone must have some type of destination ... you need a place to go and be. This sounds like I'm heading back to idea of running away to mountains. Actually, you are running to mountains, but not physically. You are creating a destination that you want to run toward --- satisfying a desire. As you head toward that vision, you are accomplishing goals, learning, becoming stronger, and resolving issues as you "move" through life.

--- Mission, Vision, and Goals ---

In previous e-books and articles, I mentioned need to create an action plan based on your Vision, Mission, and Goals. I called it a "Business Plan for Life." Your action plan contains researched and planned steps that you take to clarify your life, resolve your current issues to clear your path, and move toward a specific Vision that you see as "Your Life."

It is important to understand your Vision. But, you have to be clear when defining your Vision. Clarity comes from understanding your current situations and being able to clear these situations such that your life is more balanced. By clearing, I don't mean eliminating everything from your life. I mean eliminating kinks that certain situations cause in fabric of your life. This means coming to terms with certain issues and getting rid of other things that are no longer of any use to you (e.g., past fears, current petty problems that seem insurmountable, etc.)

Once your Vision is set, you have to define your Mission. Your Mission defines mechanism that you will use to reach your Vision. It is your overall idea, theme, of your action plan. When defining your Mission, picture your Vision as a bright light with a clear path right up to center. This path is your Mission.

With your Mission defined, you must define Goals to be accomplished to successfully traverse your Mission. These Goals are steps involved to incrementally approach and reach your Vision based on mechanism defined in your Mission. Each step is a "baby step" or a "bite sized" piece of entire journey. By defining your Goals, you are able to take an overwhelming journey and break it into manageable and measurable pieces that slowly build to help you reach your ultimate Vision.

Finally, your action plan contains actual pieces of puzzle that identify physical actions you must take for each Goal. This action plan is your prioritized map that defines what you will do every day to accomplish a Goal. This map allows you to measure your progress and better understand where you are in your journey. Additionally, by examining Goals as you go, you can make adjustments to your plan to make sure that your Mission is on track and your Vision is clear.

--- What's next? ---

Simplifying your life does not have to involve a complete elimination of your worldly existence. Nor does it have to be escape to some remote region of planet. When you feel that desire to "run to mountains" or get rid of everything in your life, that's a sign that you need to change something in your life and get moving. It is your inner self that is telling you to wake up and go.

Simplifying your life means that you want to make things easier in all aspects. It can be as simple as eliminating things that are complicated and replacing them with things that have meaning to your direction. I call it "Managing your Life" instead of simplifying because you are not minimizing your life to its bare essentials, but you are taking an already full life and removing kinks to make path smoother.

A simple life does not have to contain nothing. A simple life can be full and contain numerous tangents and paths, but it is void of issues that unnecessarily complicate things that mean most to you.