What can bring you balance, is to develop your emotional intelligence, which includes such competencies as resilience. This bolsters your ability to handle stress you can’t eliminate from you life, or wouldn’t want to. Also, by determining your values, and setting priorities according to them, you can bring purpose into your life, which has a balancing effect in itself. How many times have we heard someone say, “They don’t pay me enough to do this job,” whereas there are people volunteering all time at non-profit agencies undergoing similar stress who experience it positively, because it’s got meaning to them and what they want to be doing.

Emotional competency also includes Authenticity and Intentionality. Once you know who you are, you are far less likely to get involved in doing things you don’t want to that will turn into obstacles and needn’t have been taken on in first place. In other words, you learn to say “no”.

Intentionality relieves a lot of stress. It’s saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and making it happen.

It’s similar to “If you don’t lie, you don’t have to remember anything.” If you know you will do what you say you will do, and others know this too, think of paper work (and worry and accountability energy) that will be saved.

Lastly, by studying emotional intelligence with an EQ coach, you can eventually learn to modulate emotions that are coming in. You may still want to be caretaker for your aged mother in your home, and you will experience it as far less stressful, because you’ve learned to manage your emotions, hers, and rest of family’s.

Life balance is too important. Don’t stop with surface things. Don’t just try and rearrange external things. Work on your emotional intelligence so you experience your life and emotions in a more balanced way. Most individuals recognize immediate results in their life, both at work and at home.