Are you Creative?

Written by Amyn Lalji

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individuals (do this idea juggling, even when many of them seem ridiculous to others) because they develop a strong belief in their own selves. They are confident and haverepparttar ability to go on and on with their ideas whilst others would stop at a point when they hit a wall or seem to arrive near an expected result. Due to their strong belief in their own abilities and their own self, creative individuals learn to express themselves both emotionally and intellectually. One ofrepparttar 149495 most astounding aspects of creative individuals is their paradoxical nature. On one hand they are quite imaginative, and think or talk about conditions and notions that are unrealistic, but onrepparttar 149496 other they develop realistic approaches to whatever they think or do. This paradoxical nature of creative people is what makes them different fromrepparttar 149497 rest ofrepparttar 149498 lot. However, I personally believe that in spite of all these attributes that differentiate a creative individual fromrepparttar 149499 majority, they are too constraining in defining a truly creative person. Creativity is not an end in itself but a means towards an end. It is what makes you a better person and steers you towards what is important in your life as an individual. So creativity is nothing, it is “the culminating point of beauty, transformation, play andrepparttar 149500 act of being present.”

Think over it!

Creativity is the central topic of Amyn Lalji’s new book “Bumped into the Wall – A Tool for Unblocking your Creativity and Releasing Your Creative Spirit” published in 2005. You can download an e-copy of his book at Amyn Lalji is a Creativity and Leadership Coach. He helps individuals and organisations unblock their creative spirit and create fulfilling lives.

What to Do When Someone Offends You

Written by Susan Dunn MA, Professional Coach

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When you’re “offended,” you’re angry, and we know that anger kills. People who intentionally aim to offend, are angry people, and they’re trying to pass it on. They don’t like themselves, so it makes them feel good to not like you. Don’t takerepparttar hook. Make note they’re like that, and limit your contact with them, of course; but when you can’t, managerepparttar 149462 emotions around it. Your emotional reaction can do you harm. The words themselves cannot.

You can also monitor your self-talk, lest it go on forever. If you find yourself thinking, “He insulted me,” or “He said that to get back at me,” or “He said that to make me angry,” try telling yourself something different, like, “That doesn’t include me, of course,” or “I’m going to let that comment just move on through me and takerepparttar 149463 emotions along with it because I want peace and good health.” Or simply reciterepparttar 149464 alphabet. War stories haverepparttar 149465 same physiological effect on you asrepparttar 149466 initial incident, sometimes months and years later. Why would you want to do that to yourself.

You don’t have a constitutional right not to be offended, but you always haverepparttar 149467 option of turning downrepparttar 149468 volume, pushingrepparttar 149469 “off” or “delete” button, walking away, staying away, and not letting anger fester within you and cause you real harm.

You can also learn something from it, about yourself. Our emotions give us information. Ask yourself if you’re angry because people shouldn’t talk or be that way. If you can’t be happy untilrepparttar 149470 world andrepparttar 149471 people in it are perfect, you’re going to have a long wait, a miserable life, and possibly a coronary.

Check in on what issues were triggered. If they said all Xs are X, and you are that way, and it’s not a nice way to be, you may want to look at that. As Russell Lynes puts it, “The only gracious way to accept an insult is to ignore it; if you can’t ignore it, top it; if you can’t top it, laugh at it; if you can’t laugh at it, it’s probably deserved.” Laughter is always a good physiological antidote to anger; you can’t be relaxed and tense atrepparttar 149472 same time.

If they attacked an institution with which you’re affiliated, are you sure you want to be a martyr for a cause that big? It’s unlikely you’ll change their opinion, and very likely you’ll raise your blood pressure, accelerate your heart rate, bring on a migraine, or prime yourself for a stroke. Over time, of course, but a habit’s a habit. Pick battles large enough to matter, but small enough to win.

If you’rerepparttar 149473 kind who feels every emotion must be acted upon, take that energy and put it to good use. There are bigger things to work on than one person’s attitude. Teach others a better way. Be a Big Sister, teach Sunday school, sponsor a foreign exchange student, give seminars, write an article forrepparttar 149474 “rant and rave” section of , or send a letter to an editor. But do it from a loving place, otherwiserepparttar 149475 negative energy is still there.

The bottom line is protecting yourself, not from someone else’s words, but from your own reactions. The bottom line is, no one can offend you unless you agree to it. Don’t agree to it. Move on!

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