Family: Are Your Children Ready for School?

Are Your Children Ready for School?

Written by Dorothy M Neddermeyer

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Third, a child needs to have specific information, tools and techniques to know what to do. Self-protection offers a direct and effective way for children to help themselves. Who, other than repparttar

child, is in a better position to protect him/herself? Perpetrators say they can sense a child to victimize. They can tell by repparttar 111373

child's demeanor, body language, and facial expression. They sense repparttar 111374

fear,

helplessness, repparttar 111376

passivity. They chose a child who is easily intimidated or controlled so hopefully repparttar 111377

child won't tell. Secrecy, needless-to-say, is paramount for repparttar 111378

perpetrator. Whenever a person is traumatized, he or she resorts to familiar behavior; for girls this behavior is usually passivity, while boys usually 'tough it out;--thinking if they are strong and unemotional, no harm can occur. Sexual crimes against children can only be committed if repparttar 111379

perpetrator finds someone who will hopefully keep repparttar 111380

secret. No child needs to fall prey to these cunning predators. There is no foolproof method of preventing perpetrators from abusing a child. They are cunning predators, who have perfected their predatory skills to get what they want. Therefore, you need to heed and investigate any warning signals. Warning signals might be: ·an aversion to a teacher. ·sudden outbursts of anger and there is no apparent reason known for such anger. ·any unusual or unexplained behavior change. ·not wanting to go to school on a particular day of repparttar 111381

week-the day gym or music class is held for instance. ·not wanting to ride repparttar 111382

bus or be around a particular person. ·the gym teacher says your child is athletically 'gifted' and he or she wants to develop your child's athletic abilities if your child practiced one-on-one after school. ·a teacher gives your child a gift. A gift is sometimes an overture to win your trust and groom your child for seduction. What to do: ·Teach your child Good/Appropriate Touch. ·Teach your child Appropriate Body Boundaries ·Foster Self-Esteem and Good Body Image ·Teach your child "Tell Mommy and Daddy Everything-No Secrets. ·Allow your child to command respect regarding dislikes and touch with family members, friends or authority figures. ·Talk with and listen to your child until you are satisfied repparttar 111383

aversion is unrelated to improper behavior by repparttar 111384

teacher. ·Make a habit of coming to school unannounced during repparttar 111385

one-on-one practices or other times to become 'known' as an attentive parent. ·Be present at games and practice. If you can't be there, ask another parent to be repparttar 111386

'stand-in' parent. Tell repparttar 111387

coach who is 'standing-in.' ·Trust and honor your child's intuitive reactions. If your child feels uncomfortable with someone, respect their intuitive sense. ·Teach your child to avoid going into a teacher's office alone-many children unwittingly go into a teacher's office at repparttar 111388

teacher's request to help carry books or equipment-with repparttar 111389

door closed and alone with repparttar 111390

teacher,

child is abused.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, MSW, CSW, CCH, CRT specializes in sexual and physical abuse recovery and prevention. . She is Executive Director of Genesis Consultants, Inc. and 1-800-THERAPIST referral service and www.Gen-Assist.com Her book, "If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention" is available in ebook or soft cover and can be ordered through http://www.gen-assist.com or any book store.

Picking Up The Pieces

Written by Annagail Lynes

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If you can't find a friend to "vent" to, buy a journal. Some people find writing out their feelings in a private place where no one else will see it helpful. I personally write my journal entries as prayers to God. Or write a letter to repparttar object of your anger. Write everything you want to tell that person. After you are done, either rip it up or put it through a paper shredder. I do not suggest sending it to that person.

When nothing else seems to work, seek counseling. Perhaps your pastor could counsel you or refer you to someone who can. Try to get to a Christian counselor. One who is a mature believer. He will also need to be a good listener. A person who does not necessarily solve your problems for you.

No matter how my ex-boyfriend treated me, no matter what he said, it was still necessary for me to forgive him.

I imagined my ex-boyfriend sitting on my couch and told him why I was mad at him, made a decision to forgive him and to release repparttar 111372 bitterness I felt toward him. Then I asked God to forgive me for holding a grudge against him. Afterward, I felt one-hundred percent better.

Matthew 6:15 says “But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. “

This shows how important it is to forgive, if we want God to forgive us. Even after you choose to forgive someone and give repparttar 111373 matter to God, you may still feel angry toward that person. It is not that you haven’t forgiven him, it is just that your feelings haven’t conformed to your decision yet. In time, your feelings will catch up. Your feelings are not an accurate judge of what is true.

In repparttar 111374 meantime, Matthew 5:44 (KJV) gives us this advice, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” It will be hard at first, but stick with it and your feelings of anger will have to flee.

Don’t be anxious to rush into a new relationship because you attract what you are. For example, if you are a hurting person, you attract hurting people. If you are a whole person, you attract whole people.

Instead of jumping into another relationship, spend sometime working with God on you. When you love yourself just repparttar 111375 way you are and have developed a relationship with God, then you will be able to attract a godly man who really loves you rather than a loser who will dump you for repparttar 111376 next pretty thing that comes along.

Annagail Lynes is editor of VisionHope Magazine. She specializes in writing articles for young adults about dating, school, parents, peer pressure and other youth-related issues. Get your Free Sample Issue of VisionHope, plus free articles and free pen pal ads at http://visionhope.ontheweb.com

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