Are You a "Right-Fighter"?Written by Dr. Shawn Byler
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~ Right-Fighting is an especially dangerous behavior for mothers. A very common outcome of right-fighting is that it tends to breed explosiveness and anger within home environment. ~ Because nature of a right-fighting parent is to prove his/her value and worthiness through being "right", it is at same time stealing a strong sense of value and worthiness from children. Any time parents have low self-esteem, children will too. ~ Frequently right-fighters are managers, bosses or owners of companies because they are strong and powerful (which when used well are merely 2 of abounding excellent qualities of right-fighter!). Unfortunately, right-fighting work environment creates disloyalty, frequent turnover, dishonesty, ineffectiveness, and an every man for himself attitude. (I'll save right-fighting in workplace for another time!) Do Not Despair! If you have found that you may have some qualities of a right-fighter, don't start beating yourself up, begin working on it! You are a wonderful and lovable person with far more positive qualities than negative... this is certain! This habit does NOT have to define you. You are capable of releasing this habit at any time (please seek help if you need it, a partner in change is always a wonderful gift to yourself and your family!). Acknowledging your habit of right-fighting and becoming aware when you are engaging in this habit is first, most important step in leading a more successful and happy life. Action Step "Right-fighters": Begin to gently remind yourself of your unchanging value and worth during arguments and disagreements, whether or not you fully believe it. "Fake it till you make it"! Begin to imagine what conflict would be like if outcome was not important. Begin to allow others to hold one opinion and you another without having ill or hurt feelings. What would life be like to be loved, cared for and respected rather than being "right"? Try validating others' opinions as equally valuable. This doesn't mean you must agree, only to say "yes" you and your view are as valuable as mine". I promise you, peace will begin to flow into your life.
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| | Respect is a Four-Letter WordWritten by Laurie Hayes
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- attentive listening - referring to a person by name - being courteous and polite - learning person’s values and beliefs so as not to offend with inappropriate or offensive remarks - taking person aside when need be to discuss matters that would offend or demean if handled publicly - eliminating offensive language and profanity from your vocabulary By treating others with respect, you will be amazed by how they will go out of their way to support you. Like-minded individuals will be drawn to you and you will be treated with same respect you show to others. By showing respect you are silently communicating, “You Matter” and although you may not see an immediate impact, you are making a positive difference and will be rewarded for your kindness through universal reciprocation. As you start this week, make a conscious effort to show respect to every soul you encounter, even gnarly lady at fruit stand and cranky bus driver. Learn people’s names and show a genuine interest in them. Wish them a good day and thank them for their efforts.
Laurie Hayes is one of Canada's leading Life Strategy Coaches and owner of Where the Heart is Life Coaching. Laurie works with people who are committed to creating their ideal lifestyle and living life on purpose. She can be reached at www.wheretheheartis-lifecoaching.com
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