As one famous person said, "There is a sure way to avoid criticisms, be nothing and do nothing. This remedy never fails." True enough.

Take my case.

When I was in first year college, my dad wanted me to shift my course to Physical Therapy because it was in demand in United States at that time. But I wanted to continue my studies in Accountancy. I remained firm with my decision and after some negotiations they finally gave in.

Then there's my love life. Chinese tradition states that Chinese people marry their own kind. (No offense) But I fell madly in love with this Filipino girl. Despite all criticisms, discouragement, and harsh words (pardon me), I defended my love for her. Right now we're going strong and my relatives have respected my decision.

You see, if I have given up easily in any of two scenarios, I would've deprived myself of joy and contentment in my life.

Sometimes other people's words would cut like a knife. But never be disheartened. Listen to voice inside of you. We will never be able to satisfy everybody because each of us is unique. We have our own distinct traits and values. Respect for each other's opinions should be upheld.

With that said, I would like to leave this final message that sums it all up. Follow your heart and happiness will follow.

And when Your Day comes . . . GO FOR IT, whether you’re making a picture, walking in woods, going to a movie, or just sitting still. What matters is that you’re doing something you really enjoy.

These tricks will help you get most out of your day:

•Give yourself permission – this is Your Day. It is absolutely 100% okay for you to be taking this time. When kill-joy thinking comes along (and it will), play with it. Pretend it’s a stick floating in a stream, and just let it drift away. •Leave your cel phone at home, or at least turned off. You’re busy savoring, remember? •Keep day alive – collect a souvenir or take mental photographs to help you hold on to this special time. •Tell story – Share your experience with a friend or partner – joy that’s shared multiples by ten. •Write it down. Read it over as a reminder in a few days or weeks.

When your Savoring time is over, celebrate! Pat yourself on back for challenging Conventional Wisdom. And, while you’re at it, why not take out your calendar and make another date for Savoring Your Day?

(c) M. Killoran, 2004