What do 'fine', 'okay', 'not too bad', 'all right', 'pretty good' and all other non-responses really mean? Absolutely nothing. They mean nothing because question that they answer usually means less than nothing.

'How are you', 'how're you doing', 'how's family' are meaningless punctuation. Most often person asking is not even looking at you - and rarely are they listening to your equally meaningless answer.

Yet, by hijacking that automatic question and giving a completely unexpected - and exciting answer - we can take control of a conversation. And more, force other person to think positively of us.

I could have said 'marvellous' or 'first-class' or 'absolutely splendid' or any number of positive, energizing statements. But I liked Charlotte's choice.

It is certainly true that you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Let your first impression in any meeting, be brilliant!

She said she’d honestly never thought of it like that. She’d only seen it from point of view that her and kids never got to see him and felt neglected. She told him this and they ended up talking until small hours of morning, getting everything off their chests.

Now four principles that she employed in this situation were:

1-When you turn on light, darkness cannot survive. She responded with love when presented with animosity, and love won.

2-Someone gives you a gift of an emotion (hate, fear, animosity). You have choice of accepting or rejecting emotion. If you choose to reject it, then it remains theirs and doesn’t transfer to you. She chose not to get upset by his remark, but to take control of situation and point it in direction she wanted to go.

3-Why would you ever willingly accept someone else’s negative energy as your own? Never allow anyone to contaminate your energy field with their negative energy. Imagine that you have a field of positive around you and that nothing you don’t want, can get through.

4-Choose to keep yourself plugged into God and Love instead of material world and fear. Repeat phrase “I can choose Peace instead of this turmoil” Decide to switch from being a victim of negativity to a master of positivity.

If you keep yourself focused on God then you automatically know Peace. If you concentrate on giving Love, you will have it returned many times and in a multitude of ways.

The greatest gift you can give to your children is to love their Mother/Father.