Of course, sometimes being effective is being able to multi-task. As a Mom I truly can’t survive without this skill. I may cook supper while my children are doing homework or answer a few emails while they are watching TV. I also need to be aware of times when I can’t do this.

My husband and I try to find quality time alone together a few times a month. On our recent trip to Mexico, it was just amazing to be a couple again. We laughed, played and talked. Rather than finding ourselves talking family all time, we were able to strengthen our relationship while laughing on a kayak. Being aware of difference between two has helped me to improve both quality of my work and my relationships.

Here are some areas of our lives that benefit from making sure we are being effective and doing right job: Chores – When we do them and how much time we spend doing them. Do we need to vacuum everyday? Family time – Are we really being together as a family? There is a difference between watching TV together and a family night. Work – Can we focus on work so we can leave it there when we are done? Relationships – We need to spend quality time with our family and friends. Travel – Can we travel and leave work or our commitments behind? Relaxing activities - Are we doing what we enjoy? Yes it is okay to watch our favorite TV shows, but do we need to watch hours of nothing? When we decide to relax, can we stop thinking about all that we have to do? (Moms, I know we are all guilty of this one!)

Now, when we are doing right job, let’s be efficient and make sure we do it well (not perfect!).

Here's a critical point about interests. Never, ever project yours on to him. Doing so can lead to big problems. For example, if he hasn't directly expressed a desire for a pet, buying him one is a substantial risk. Again, if you're uncertain about what new interests he might have, get some help from others. If you have siblings, through a discussion about options you might decide to present dad with a joint gift this year -- a good way to extend buying power for something that he wouldn't otherwise get.

DAD'S TASTES

Even though you may think he should learn to appreciate finer things in life like opera, or he should learn to cook deluxe desserts, gift buying for dad is not about "should." It's not about you, except as a way to show your love and respect. So stick with his tastes in music, books, clothing --whatever. If he has never worn purple, don't bother buying it just because it's color flavor of year.

YOUR BUDGET

Finally, factor all these issues into how much you want to spend. In this case, tradition might be your best guide.

If you have been buying modest gifts, showing extravagance now might be unsettling and embarrassing for dad. However, if your financial situation has improved after years of pinching pennies, then he will likely accept that your more valuable gift simply reflects your desire to share your change in status with him.

In your price range you will find plenty of options, though more flexibility you have financially greater selection. Spending big bucks isn't necessarily answer, however.

Your gift should simply feel right. If it reflects needs, interests and taste, gift will tell him that you cared enough to consider who he really is. Most dads won't be concerned about dollar value.

Most of all, your dad is likely to care whether you are able to spend time with him in person or, if you live at a distance, via phone. That's a need and an interest you should address first and foremost. The gift you buy is just a token in comparison to what you can give of yourself.