Are You Addicted to Your Children?Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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Our children need to be a part of our life, not our whole life. We need to role-model for them what it looks like to take personal responsibility for filling ourselves up. We need to show them what it looks like to take responsibility for making ourselves happy, rather than rely on them for our happiness. Your children want to know that they are important to you, but not so important that your well-being is dependent upon them. You might want to explore following questions to see if you may be using your children addictively: * Do you have a solid spiritual practice that fills you with a sense of peace and gives meaning to your life? * Are you expressing your particular talents in a way that feels meaningful and productive to you and gives you a sense of fulfillment? * Do you have fulfilling emotional connections with other adults – a partner, other family members or friends? If you answered “yes” to these, then you are probably not using your children addictively. * Do you feel bored and useless when your children are not around? Is it your children that give your life meaning? * Is your sense of worth attached to your children’s achievements? Do you tend to take it personally if one of your children has a problem? * Are you over-involved in your children’s lives? * Are you overly sensitive if one of our children is angry or distant? Do you find yourself trying to pacify your children rather than set appropriate limits in order to avoid their rejection? * Did you choose to have children to share fullness of your love or did you have children in hopes of getting love from them? If you answered “yes” to one or more of these, then there is a good possibility that you are using your children addictively. If this is case, best thing you can do for you and your children is to move yourself toward a solid spiritual practice, look for meaningful ways of expressing your talents, and develop emotional connection and support from other adults.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com
| | Cat lovers and cat associations around the worldWritten by chetan gupta
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left life time pensions for his cats and their offsprings. An Egyptian sultan in 1280 A.D. left a garden for support of needy cats, where a daily distribution of food continued to be made well into 20th century. Other famous cat lovers throughout history were King Louis XIII of France, Queen Victoria of England, King Edward VII of England, Pope Gregory great, Pope Leo XII of Vatican City, St. Patrick, Scientist Isaac Newton, Scientist Albert Einstein, Scientist Benjamin Franklin, Scientist Louis Pasteur, novelist Sir Walter Scott, Jimmy Carter, King Rama V of Thailand, King Reza Shah Pahlavi of Iran, Henri VII chancellor, Misty Malarky, Ying Yang, Florence Nightingale, Mark Twain, Writer Victor Hugo, President Theodore Roosevelt of USA, Franklin D. Roosevelt, President Abrahm Lincoln of USA, President John F. Kennedy of USA, British leader Sir Winston Churchill, President Calvin Coolidge of USA, George Washington, Noble Prize winner French missionary Albert Schweitzer, Noble Prize winner British poet T.S. Elliot, famous writer Charles Dickens, Ernest Hemingway. Ernest Hemingway was owner of thirty cats. President Abraham Lincoln had domesticated four cats in white house. Prophet Mohammad, founder of Islam religion loved cats. Prophet Mohammad, founder of Islam had domesticated a beloved cat named Muezza. Prophet Mohammad thought dogs unclean. One day, Muezza, cat of Prophet Mohammad fell asleep on sleeve of his robe. The Prophet Mohammad called to prayer, cut his sleeve of his robe rather than awaken cat. After Prophet Mohammed returned, cat awoke and cat bowed gracefully to thank him for his consideration. Prophet Mohammed then stoked cat three times and cats were given permanent place in Islam. Confucius, founder of Cofucian religion himself was reported to have owned a cat of which he was very fond. When King Prajadhipok of Thailand was crowned in 1925, a cat took part in coronation procession as representative of former King, Rama VI of Thailand. A cat still lives in no.10 Downing Street in London and a cat named Socks still lives in white house in Washington.
I am owner and webmaster of website http://www.catswelfare.org.I am working in SPCA Mumbai for the past seven years.I am also a cat dentist.
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