Wicki, our Boston Terrier, is a great believer in "just because." She loves to wrestle with Dudney, our 12- year-od cat, and we, in turn, never tire of watching two of them pouncing and leaping and rolling around. Dogs and cats are not supposed to play together -- their styles are too different, says Conventional Wisdom. But for nearly 4 years now, cat-dog play has been a regular and delightful aspect of our family life.

If they can do it, why can't we? Play, that is. Just because. Take time out from Tasks of Life, step aside from our accustomed ways of being, and Celebrate. Why? Just because. May you enjoy your own Bonza Bottler Day. This month. This week. Why not today

As you make your list, notice following:

- How do you FEEL? Do you feel excited about certain desires? Guilty about others?

- What physical sensations do you feel? Does it feel like someone is tightening a noose around neck? Or do you feel like getting up to dance?

- As you write down each item, what words pop into your head? For example, do you hear gems such as "Oh, that's most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!" or "You can't have that! Who do you think you are? The Queen of Sheba?"

Now prioritize your list by picking your top ten desires. As you look top ten over, ask yourself again how you feel? What voices do you hear in your head? What beliefs pop into your mind? Where do you notice your social conditioning showing up? How does your body feel? Do your top ten desires have a common theme? What did you just become aware of?

At end of day, what we want is usually pretty simple and clear. It's our feelings and judgment that get in way. The social conditioning that tells us that we must live a certain way, act a certain way and feel a certain way stops us from acknowledging truthfully that which we want deeply - our deep tissue desires.

How often do you give yourself what you want? How often do you neglect this part of yourself - very call of your soul?