Try to create a louder, more persuasive voice that helps you identify an equally believable, more optimistic viewpoint.

Step 2: Regulate your emotions. There are many ways to regulate your emotions and feelings in your life, including being your own best friend, eating well, exercising, playing, listening to uplifting music, getting in touch with a spiritual system, and creating emotional connections with others by sincere listening.

Step 3: Try alternative behaviors. Behaving differently is one of most effective ways to show response flexibility and get different results in your life.

But, doing things differently is not easy! We are all creatures of habit and we tend to continue behaving in comfortable and familiar ways.

One of challenges in behaving differently is, of course, coming up with ideas on how else we can behave differently in various situations.

Start by understanding that much of our behavior is determined by a feeling or emotion we are having—or we wish to have. But a specific behavior does not HAVE to be connected with that feeling.

Try alternative behaviors when you get those angry feelings by asking yourself, “What are some other ways I can deal with this situation?”

Often they include behaviors like taking a brisk walk, assertively communicating with your family member, taking a timeout, picking your battles, or listening to soothing music.

Ask yourself: What are some other ways I can deal with this situation?

Respond vs. react: The difference between “react” and “respond” is “automatic reflex” versus a “thoughtful, reflective response” that considers different ways of dealing with a situation. A reaction is a kneejerk, automatic action. A response, however, is dealing with a situation by considering options and likely outcomes, then choosing best.

Trust me; I went thru this stage when I had my first daughter. I was all about her until; I took a real look at stranger in mirror staring at me. She no longer had her own illusions; she had neglected her physical appearance and most importantly did not like what she saw.

That’s when I decided that not only was I aiming to be a good mom but, it was also my personal goal to not lose myself in process.

Now, I have given up work outside but, have remained independent by working at home, follow my dreams, allow space to grow and take care of myself (physically, emotionally).

The result of it: I am happier which automatically helps me be more patient, appreciative, and loving not to mention a better role model. But, always keep in mind there is no perfect mom. Just like any other role in life you will learn along way.

If you believe that you do not handle your frustrations effectively then it would be good to take anger or stress management classes or if you would like to enhance your parenting skill go to Center for Improving Child Caring http://www.ciccparenting.org/cicc_fpcs_13.asp they offer free classes in most states, free childcare is available while you are in class. “It will not be fair to mistreat your children so, seek out help if necessary.”

Just some advise from another mom,

Kenia Morales

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