Anger Resolution for Couples

Written by Jennifer Ottolino

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3) Express Your Needs

Nowrepparttar time has come to express yourself to your partner. Remember, this is about getting your feelings heard and your needs met.

1. Askrepparttar 131388 person if they can talk with you. Make sure that you have givenrepparttar 131389 person enough time for his or her own processing. "I want to talk with you about upset I was. Is this a good time for you?” 2. Tellrepparttar 131390 person how much you love them. "I just want to tell you how much I love you and how important our relationship is to me." This may sound strange but it actually helps relaxrepparttar 131391 other person so that they can actually listen to you. In addition, it will helprepparttar 131392 person be more receptive your needs. Remember, this about getting your needs met! 3. Express how you feel. "I feel angry and upset right now. I feel unimportant when a person is late and does not let me know." 4. Tellrepparttar 131393 person what you need. "What I really need from you is to call me when you are going to be more than 15 minutes late." 5. Askrepparttar 131394 person for support. "This is really important to me, is this something you can do for me?"

In most cases, if you follow this processrepparttar 131395 person will be more than happy to meet your needs and more likely to follow through on their support. You will feel heard andrepparttar 131396 disagreement should feel resolved.

4) Peace

Check back with your feelings and determine if you still feel angry or resentful. If you are, there is probably more that is going on andrepparttar 131397 process should be repeated. If you do still feel angry, make sure it is real anger. Sometimes we think thatrepparttar 131398 only way to win is forrepparttar 131399 other person to lose, and we feel dissatisfied withoutrepparttar 131400 knock down, drag out fight. Hopefully, you will feel really good at this point, your anger will be gone and your needs met. This is a good time to give each other a hug and reaffirm that you love each other.

5) Sync up & Acknowledge

A couple days later, check in with yourself and with your partner to ensure thatrepparttar 131401 matter has been resolved. Whenrepparttar 131402 person supports your needs inrepparttar 131403 way that you requested, make sure you acknowledge that and tell them how much their support means to you. This will reinforcerepparttar 131404 behavior and ensure that your needs will continue to be met.

These steps will go a long way to improving your communication with your partner during a disagreement. This will probably feel a little strange at first. It will take practice. Think about how wonderful it will be to get what you need without energy-draining, defensive, and damaging fights. Remember, this is not about blame and whatrepparttar 131405 other person did “wrong”. This is about getting your feelings heard and your needs fulfilled. You and your partner will both be happier withrepparttar 131406 result.

Jennifer Ottolino is a Personal and Professional Discovery Coach who specializes in helping individuals live a balanced and fulfilled personal and professional life. Send her an email at or visit her website at

Are you trying to create wealth in a racing car or a jalopy??

Written by Noel Peebles

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Also consider for a moment,repparttar habits & traits of your average baby-boomer (if there is such a beast).

They are likely to be: · Knowledgeable, informed buyer · Quality consciousness · Highly participatory and experiential · Have high discretionary income · Convenience oriented · Highly individualistic · Strive for self improvement and excellence · Value leisure and creative pursuits · Conscious of health & environment · Self help oriented · Highly experimental · Value passion, care andrepparttar 131385 personal touch

Put simply, forrepparttar 131386 first time in history, we have our largest population* betweenrepparttar 131387 ages of 40 and 60 years. The fastest growing group are those over 80 years andrepparttar 131388 slowest are those inrepparttar 131389 0 to 9 years age group.

There are some fairly obvious reasons for this. In days gone by people had many babies but these babies often failed to survive past infancy and, adults didn’t live for any where near as long as we do today.

Do you know any couples aroundrepparttar 131390 age of twenty who are planning to get married and have nine or ten children? I don’t think so! You see something calledrepparttar 131391 ‘pill’ came along and dramatically changed things forever.

Do they want to live inrepparttar 131392 outer suburbs and commute long distances? No! They want to live close to amenities, with good (and/or cheap) restaurants and entertainment facilities nearby.

So there you have it. If you want to choose a racing car, then baby-boomers holdrepparttar 131393 key and timing is everything!

* Statistics may vary from country to country.

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