Not so these days! Both men and women these days are more emotionally expressive, and use phrase much more lightly than you may be accustomed to. When your guy says it, it can mean:

·I have no idea, but I know women want to hear it.

·I’m feeling great and into myself.

·I love myself.

·Will you marry me?

·That’s not what I said. I was clearing my throat.

·A lifetime commitment.

·That was great sex.

·Let’s have great sex.

·We’re having great sex.

·I don’t know, but when guy in movie said it, he got laid.

“I LOVE YOU” IN CONTEXT

It matters what precedes and follows phrase, and how long time-gap was. If word “but” is anywhere around it, there will be tears.

When followed several weeks later by “I care about you very much,” “I love you” meant “I was hot for you but this has gotten too heavy and now I’m outa here.”

When preceded immediately by “I have to tell you something. I’m married but I love you,” it means “I’m hot for you, this will never get heavy, but I hope you won’t kick me outa here.”

You see how complicated it gets!

There’s no general meaning or even non-meaning for term with men. Man are from their OWN planet. It isn’t even as easy as to say they’re all from same OTHER planet. THE MALE HONOR CODE PART III

It does remain true that if you don’t want answer, don’t ask question. This takes us back to Male Honor Code. Remember that direct questions get direct, rational answers; that is, untempered by sensitivity. Being generally lower in empathy, if you ask your man, “Does this make my butt look fat?” (which you wouldn’t ask if you didn’t think it did), and he answers, “Yes. Very,” don’t say I didn’t warn you.

A last part of Male Honor Code is about “don’t kiss and tell.” This comes up in intimate conversations. You are discussing a relationship or sexual issue, and sharing a past experience in order to increase understanding, to improve things, to make a point, and because you value your relationship to him most. Then it’s his turn to share, and here’s what you get: “I don’t kiss and tell.”

I don’t think it has to do with empathy. It’s more like if there’s one thing that’s gotten through to them, it would be that to talk about sex with another woman would get them castrated. It could also be that while you were talking about making out on a beach with a pina colada in your hand, he was flashing on something about a Mile High Club, himself, 3 stewardesses, a seeing-eye dog, Murat Turk, some duct tape, and a hookah.

WHEN WORDS ARE LACKING

While men will talk about their former spouses, ones who had divorce filed on them usually claim to have no clue as to why. It always just happened out of blue. “I walked in one day and she’d taken all her things. I had no idea she was unhappy.

If your guy is doing this, understand that his interpersonal relationship skills aren’t highest (again, no reason per se to disqualify him) and that you’re going to have to deal with problems very directly. I can’t imagine a woman divorcing a man who hadn’t spent sometimes years belaboring same points, which, because he doesn’t know why he was “left,” means he never heard them, which is why she left. Words had more or less become meaningless. Perhaps you, with more age, wisdom and experience, can have better luck!

I don’t speak or understand “Martian” any better than you do; I’ve just learned alternate means of communication over years which work better. How about you?

Communicating with a man in a daily relationship has been likened to training a dog. Reasoning doesn’t work. Explaining doesn’t work. Begging doesn’t work. Clear commands and quick, consistent consequences do. And, as with your dog, you must figure out how to get his attention first. It may mean removing remote control, or even swatting a rolled newspaper on coffee table. Do what you have to do! After all, way they learned not to “kiss and tell” was because they did once!

Women and divorce tactic 3:

Women who may be facing divorce should look at household wills. In some cases, it may be legal to take someone out of a will or put someone into a will without that person knowing.

Women and divorce tactic 4:

Women who want to plan for divorce should try to put away cash in event something dramatic happens unexpectedly. Bit by bit, putting cash away somewhere in a place that cannot be found by heir husband will allow women to make sure they can survive in event of "unforeseen circumstances".

Women and divorce tactic 5:

Women who plan on getting divorced should document any events that will strengthen their case against their husband. Occurrences such as physical abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, and drunken stupors that end in embaraasment or abuse are examples or instances that should be documented because these happeneings strengthen any case women have against their husband.

Women and divorce tactic 6:

Women who know that divorce is in their future should do all they can to decrease liabilities and increase their access to money. This includes paying down mutual debt, establishing credit of their own if they do not have credit already, and making sure that mortgage (if there is one) is paid down as much as possible.

Women and divorce tactic 7:

Women who are serious about getting a divorce or who think that their husband might ask for a divorce in future should gather all documents that have to do with anything financial that has their name listed. They should make a list of all these items with financial institution name, address, account number, balance, interest rate, etc. Knowing exactly what is at stake financially will help alleviate surprises later.

Planning a divorce can be as painful for women as it can be for men. Generally, women aren't breadwinners (although things are getting a lot closer to being 'new age' than in previous decades) and getting surprised with divorce papers can have long term financial affects to women who don't plan accordingly and protect themselves financially.

Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce", the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients.

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