If you think these examples are extreme, I'm sorry to say they really aren't. Go to dinner in a family restaurant on a Friday or Saturday night and witness all married couples who don't even talk to each other.

You don't want to end up like these people.

To make sure you don't, take your time when you're dating someone. After a while, if your relationship seems to be heading somewhere, ask questions that matter: Does guy want children? More important, what are his beliefs about raising of children? Who takes care of household chores? What are his feelings about infidelity? Does he believe marriage is for life, or does he think it should last only as long as it's fun?

You don't necessarily want to tie guy to a chair and torture him with Christina Aguilera records until he coughs up answers, but you do want to ask him. Casually. One question at a time. Get to know a guy before you start fantasizing about floating up an aisle in a big white dress.

One of great things about being single is that your world is full of possibilities. You're free to come and go as you please. You never want to find yourself crying your eyes out, trapped with a pack of screaming children because you married some loser who won't let you out of house.

It's your life. You deserve to spend it with a man who respects that and makes you truly happy. He's out there, so hold out for him.

Please.

Strong leadership flows through group, bottom to top, top to bottom with people at bottom often inspiring, teaching and influencing as much as people at top.

Strong leadership is about developing purpose and responsibility – purpose being meaning and direction, responsibility being ‘ownership’ and taking charge.

And while good leaders will be in charge of their specialist area – classroom, office or home – outstanding leaders will have defined their purpose in every area of their life, through home and career, right out into community.

When powerful, outstanding leaders see something that needs changing they step up to mark and force change wherever they see it. They pull up their socks, roll up their sleeves and ask others to pitch in and join them.

True leadership is about encouraging everyone to lead. True leadership is about meaning. True leadership is about direction. True leadership is about taking responsibility wherever responsibility needs taking.

Best Wishes

Jo Ball Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life