After a Crisis or Trauma

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Professional Coach


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6.Less willing to compromise.

Often we find after a crisis, we’re more willing to change things that need changing, and to take action when it’s necessary. The strength you discover in a crisis leads to a great sense of personal power; your ability to effect what’s going on around you.

7.Not taking anything for granted.

Once you discover what really matters, you are much more willing to putrepparttar work in. This could include meaningful relationships or work. Losing something important, or almost losing it, brings thing into a new perspective. You don’t take things for granted you used to.

8.An appreciation forrepparttar 101583 now.

There is nothing like going through a trauma or crisis to make you appreciate a quiet, “normal” day. Suddenly a day that formerly might have seemed boring to you is full of wonderful things – among them, justrepparttar 101584 fact that there’s nothing awful going on.

9.Handle stress better.

Your toleration of stress will have become elevated, and you can handle everyday stress better.

10.Spiritual growth.

Going through a crisis is being whererepparttar 101585 rubber hitsrepparttar 101586 road. You question many things, including your faith, and can come out much stronger. Questions arise that wouldn’t have arisen otherwise, and so you grow.

All of these things are possible when you go through a crisis or trauma. One ofrepparttar 101587 most important things is not to stay in isolation. Many people understand after going through a crisis how helpful other people can be, and how much we need one another.

Coaching and counseling can also help you in time of need. Resilience means being able to bounce back after loss, failure, and misfortune being able to retain you hope and enthusiasm forrepparttar 101588 future.

While no one wants to have a crisis or trauma occur in their life, it can be a tremendous growth opportunity. Studies have shown that isolation, which means emotional isolation, is one ofrepparttar 101589 worst things you can do for your health. Reach out forrepparttar 101590 help you need and stay connected, and work on your emotional intelligence skills. It’srepparttar 101591 emotionally intelligent thing to do.

Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching and Internet courses for your personal and professional development. Transitions, career, relationships, resilience. Mailto:sdunn@susanudnn.cc for FREE ezine.


The Importance of Whole-Brain Thinking

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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Research at Harvard Business School has demonstrated thatrepparttar higher up you go in an organization,repparttar 101582 more important it is to combine right-brain intuition with left-brain rationality.

In actuality, both hemispheres ANDrepparttar 101583 other brains are necessary to make good decisions. Emotions give us information. Rational thinking can help us make a strategy and carry it out.

Effective people, for instance, use all their skills in all phases of problem-solving. Intuition – call it gut feeling if you prefer – can direct your initial thinking processes, and also provide clues alongrepparttar 101584 way. Gathering quantified data is also necessary and must be systematically organized and analyzed. Gut feeling can again guide your final decision, as data always runs out at some point.

Gut feeling is particularly effective in dealing with people. It’s not uncommon to receive resumes from several people who are similar in skills, education and training, or to be interviewing several who are similar. The final decision will rest onrepparttar 101585 interviewer’s skilled intuition as to which one would makerepparttar 101586 best fit withrepparttar 101587 organization. It’s not always possible to quantify how such a decision is made, though it may rest on years of experience.

You can see how it’s crucial to know and understand your emotions in problem-solving. You may want a certain candidate, for instance, because you like them a lot, but they may not berepparttar 101588 best qualified forrepparttar 101589 job, orrepparttar 101590 best one to choose. Or you may dislike a candidate for personal reasons, and need to over-ride that, because they would berepparttar 101591 best candidate. At another time, it may be prudent to selectrepparttar 101592 candidate you likerepparttar 101593 best – particularly if they’re going to be working closely with you. There are all sorts of variable to take into consideration, and it takes a whole brain to do that.

Anxiety is also an emotion that can interfere. If you’re experiencing anxiety, it’s cramping down on your ability to think and reason, and you will make poor decisions, or none at all, which can be worse.

Emotional Intelligence is whole-brained thinking. It means understanding your emotions, managing them, and using them, and being able to do this about others. It means understanding how to think and integrate emotion with analysis for problem-solving, strategizing and implementation.

Such skills as resilience, creativity, flexibility, intuition, and intentionality can greatly increase your effectiveness in relationships and onrepparttar 101594 job. Developing your Emotional Intelligence pays great dividends in all areas of your life, and lets you make use of your whole brain.

©Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching and Internet courses for your personal and professional development. Transitions, career, relationships, resilience. EQ programs for businesses. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.


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