Addiction to Perfection

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Karen states that, “There must be another way!” There is, indeed, another way - a much better way.

When you decide to define your own worth instead of handing that crucial responsibility to others, you will stop worrying about what others think and feel about you. The problem is that, for most of us, our parents and other adults defined our worth when we are young. Of course we saw adults as havingrepparttar authority to do that. As we grew older, we gave our peersrepparttar 136665 authority to define us. But at some point, we need to shift from others havingrepparttar 136666 authority to define our worth to our own higher, wise self or spiritual Guidance havingrepparttar 136667 authority.

In addition, we need to shift from defining our worth based on external qualities to our worth being based on internal, intrinsic soul qualities. As long as your worth is based on performance, you will worry about results. But when your worth is based on your intrinsic qualities of caring, compassion, goodness, empathy, and joyfulness, then it is never onrepparttar 136668 line regarding your performance. This will free you to create and produce with freedom and joy, knowing that you can make allrepparttar 136669 mistakes inrepparttar 136670 world and still be worthy. Perfection never comes intorepparttar 136671 picture when your performance is a joyful expression of your intrinsic worth, rather than a form of controlling what others think and feel about you.

When you open to learning with a higher authority about your true, intrinsic worth, and embracerepparttar 136672 beauty and wonder of your beautiful essence, you will stop thinking about perfection, and you will stop thinking about performance and what others think about you. You will know that you are already “perfect” in your essence, and that there is nothing to prove.

When you know your worth as intrinsic rather than based on your performance, life becomes so much easier and less tiring. Instead of your addiction to perfection immobilizing you, you are free to fully express yourself and manifest your gifts and talents. Expressing yourself creatively and productively becomes fun rather than fearful!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or

Always Be Open To Learning

Written by Guy Harris

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As we grow in both knowledge and skills, it is easy to discount or ignore input from people that we perceive as less skilled or knowledgeable than we are. Whose input do we discount? Maybe it is our children, our spouse, our employees, people with less formal education, and . . .repparttar list goes on and on. Is it possible that they see something we don't see? Despite what we think sets us apart from them, could we learn from their perspective and experience? Virtually every successful person I know or know of says that their willingness to continue learning was critical to their success. So for now, I encourage you to remember this simple tip . . . Always be open to learning.

Copyright 2005, Guy Harris

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Guy Harris is the Chief Relationship Officer with Principle Driven Consulting. He helps entrepreneurs, business managers, and other organizational leaders build trust, reduce conflict, and improve team performance. Learn more at

Guy co-authored "The Behavior Bucks System TM" to help parents reduce stress and conflict. Learn more about this book at

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