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Everything has changed. The world has changed. Mommy has changed. And it's all because Yee Sin came along.
When we came home, Yee Ting behaved very naughtily. She pulled tablecloth from table and ruined vase and flower arrangements. She kicked around when she couldn't find her color pencils. And when I was carrying Yee Sin, she would climb all over me and Yee Sin, hoping to get in between.
Thank goodness, my mother came. Amazingly, Yee Sin took to my mother that day. And I had time to look at Yee Ting in eye and reprimand her for her wrongdoing. I told her to come to my room as I had some things to tell her. I went to room before her. I waited for her while she ran around living room looking for her things. She brought her books, her dolly and her play-doh. When she entered room, she cautiously tiptoed.
Then it struck me, this little young lady has finally found mommy all alone, with nothing to do. She has finally caught mommy in a moment whereby she would be free from everything. It is possible that mommy is now way she was before. But she has to be careful. This time is precious so, in order not to spoil anything, she would tiptoe around.
I felt very guilty. I felt terrible. I was being a terrible mom to Yee Ting. For all those times I scolded her for being naughty, she was trying to get me to pay attention to her. She was trying to tell me something emotional like, "Mommy's always with Yee Sin. I am jealous!", "I want my mommy back", "I feel hurt", "I feel left out" and "Mommy! Pay attention to me. I need you too!". But she doesn't have vocabulary for it yet.
I sat with her in room for half an hour, playing, reading, laughing, joking, smiling, cuddling and I told her I love her about a million times. After all playing, I said to her, "Ting, mommy's sorry. I have no time for you, and I am extremely sorry for that. I love you. I love you tremendously and don't doubt that. It's difficult for mommy right now but nothing changed. I still love you. I need you to be a big girl, ok? I need you to be strong. I promise to make time for you everyday. I promise"
And this promise…..I kept. Yee Ting has never been better.
And as title goes…a little love changed a little girl from a little monster to a little angel. A little love goes a long way.
Marsha Maung is a freelance work@home graphic designer and writer. She lives in Selangor, Malaysia with her husband, Peter and 2 boys, Joshua and Jared. She is the author of 'Raising Little Magicians' and other books. For more information, visit http://www.marshamaung.com