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Children thrive on consistency and stability. During transition you need to demonstrate to child that their life will not change dramatically. Having consistent routines (having generally same naptimes, mealtimes, bedtimes and bath-times each day) is important for young children, because it helps them to feel secure. At times, some parenting issues require communication and coordination between parents, if child spends time with both parents. Both parents don't have to do things exactly same way, but it is easier for children if most things are similar at each home.
7. Do make every effort to ease transition of your children from one home to other.
Transition between homes can be stressful for children as well as adults. Initial adjustment to new situations can cause tension, and children may experience grief and loss over their parent separation for some time.
Children can have difficulty thinking about leaving their custodial parent and their primary home even for weekend. And if you are non-custodial parent, when your children get adjusted to being at your home, it may be difficult for them to think about leaving you again, even though they're glad to see their custodial parent.
You can make transition easier for your children by allowing children to make choices about what toys, clothes, collections, etc., are kept in each home, establishing regular schedules, and be flexible enough to accommodate schedule changes.
8. Do keep children familial ties.
Children benefit from keeping familial ties in their life that were meaningful and important to them prior to divorce. Such familial ties may not be limited to parents but may also include extended family, such as grandparents.
9. Develop a parenting plan.
Planning how to care for children after separation can be a confusing and difficult task. This is reason that made parenting plan so important. Having a plan can make it easier for you and your ex-spouse to work together as parents and reduce amount of conflict between you. One way to help your children adjust to divorce become an effective parent is to have a plan, so create one for your child.
10. Do create a generally supportive and cooperative in-between parent relationship.
Children benefit to greatest when in-between parent relationship is generally supportive and cooperative. Though most parents know this, they find it hard to set aside their anger and resentment toward other parent making co-parenting hardly possible. Try to remedy this situation by getting my free ebook on cooperative parenting and divorce. Visit my website and get your free "8 Essential Steps to Cooperative Parenting and Divorce" ebook.
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