The trick is not to try to change too much all at once. It takes time to form a habit, so pick just one or two things you would like to live, and begin integrating those changes into your life. Focus on just one or two new changes until they become a habit, or what I refer to as getting it at a cellular level. Once changes are integrated into your life and you are truly living it, try implementing another change or two. It may not seem like a lot, but if you just created one new habit a year, you would have ten new habits in a ten-year period.

Notice that I am not talking about breaking a habit or getting rid of a habit. I don't believe that is possible. I truly believe we have to replace or change habit. The universe abhors a void, so we cannot just remove habit, because it will leave a void and something will need to fill it. If we don't replace habit with a new one, chances are old one will return. Creating new habits is simply about deciding what you want more of or less of, and then creating habits that will allow you to achieve that. So instead of going on something or making temporary changes, decide what you want to be different, and live it.

•What do you like doing?

•What made you most proud of yourself during your entire life?

•What is it that you always wanted to do and you never found time? (include here anything from visiting friends, to going to Antarctica, or seeing your dentist)

•What role does money play in your life?

•What is it more important for you, you family life or your career?

•How much do you depend on others?

If you are worried about a certain decision, let all questions be related to that issue. If you’re just confused in general, when asking questions, think about common topics that one has to deal with during his life. Don’t forget to write down answers. Try to concentrate and to be sincere; after all, nobody will judge you.

All these questions will help you determine exactly where you stand and what is it that you want form life. All you have to do is to get right interpretation of your own replies. In order to do that, help yourself to a coup of tea or your favorite coffee and take time to analyze them thoroughly. Mark with a red pen whatever you find pride worthy answers and with a black one things that don’t make you proud.

Post list somewhere where you can see it more than once a day, or post it in more than one place. You’ll notice that, step by step, even unwillingly, black things on your list will start turning red. Don’t forget to renew list when most of it has turned red! It is best way to always be aware what your expectations from life are!

Good luck!