8 Keys to Lasting Love

Written by Linda Miles

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* Eliminate attack thoughts. These thoughts are incredibly destructive over time. If you attack other people and attack yourself and your thoughts, it really interferes with your happiness and with your peace of mind. Learn to find joy even in difficult times. As Mother Theresa once said, "Our best protection is a joyful heart." * Do not hold onto anger. Holding onto anger is like drinking Drano. Turn attack thoughts into something constructive. Think thoughts that are appreciative of your partner and express them often. Build up an emotional bank account so you have positive emotion currency when angry times come. * Wake up without makeup. On soap operas I see women wake up first thing inrepparttar morning with all their makeup and false eyelashes, and that's not real. What we need to do in a marriage is to learn to be more and more real, and more and more safe to be who we truly are. * Wake up and make up. It is very important for couples to learn to repair after a fight. Keep trying to find solutions. Do not get stuck rehashingrepparttar 141792 past. Live inrepparttar 141793 present, and find ways to keep your marriage buoyant and alive. * If you want to change your relationship, change yourself. Reinvent yourself, because you're not going to be able to change your partner. Learn to love in a mature way without trying to control or manipulate. C.S. Lewis once said, "To love without control or manipulation is to be surprised by joy." You will be truly surprised by joy when you can live inrepparttar 141794 moment with that other person.

Dr. Linda Miles has a doctorate in Counseling Psychology and over thirty years of experience in the field of mental health. She has appeared as an expert on numerous radio and television shows, and along with her husband has written an award-winning book about relationships. For her other books and recordings, please visit www.drlindamiles.com.

A Life of Adventure?

Written by Mark Cole

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From there, Halliburton went aroundrepparttar world and began his life of adventure and discovery. Incidentally, he managed to rescue Irving who accompanied him at least inrepparttar 141791 early stages ofrepparttar 141792 trip.

Like other great men ofrepparttar 141793 past, Halliburton had that wonderful gift of merging his real life experience withrepparttar 141794 vicarious life experiences he obtained through his vast reading. A voracious reader fromrepparttar 141795 time he was very young, Halliburton knew his history and his geography. For him these were living, breathing subjects and a vital part of his life. For him – as it should be for us – history is alive and eternal and speaks to us now with all its epic heroes, romance. This makes him much more than a casual tourist:

“The Taj Mahal had been deified in my mind ever since that childhood day when I had first looked upon an oil painting ofrepparttar 141796 fairy tomb and readrepparttar 141797 immortal story of its creation. It had always been a dream castle to me, something so fabulous it could not have dimensions and weight and location; something so lovely it could not exist outside of picture-books. Poring for hours at a time over these very books I had come to revere this building above all others….All my adventures in India up to this time I had known to be only preludes torepparttar 141798 great final adventure—the actual sight and touch ofrepparttar 141799 Taj.”

Similarly, in The Flying Carpet, as Halliburton enters Jerusalem, he setsrepparttar 141800 stage by recounting much ofrepparttar 141801 Old Testament Biblical drama surroundingrepparttar 141802 city. He invokesrepparttar 141803 New Testament as he wandersrepparttar 141804 shores ofrepparttar 141805 Sea of Galilee, and cites verse of Byron and Browning when he goes swimming inrepparttar 141806 Grand Canal in Venice. This is obviously a man who knew how to read. He read, but more than that, he saw himself as a participant in history – or at least an observer, a close observer – ofrepparttar 141807 continual drama of history which is still going on today.

History, friends, need not berepparttar 141808 same topic you were punished with in school and which you learned to dread. History isrepparttar 141809 study of life itself. If you hate life, then you will hate history. But if you still have a pulse, then you simply must partake of history – because history is still going on. So…what isrepparttar 141810 point of all this? What doesrepparttar 141811 life of Halliburton mean for us today?

Surely it means, atrepparttar 141812 minimum, thatrepparttar 141813 world is still worth seeing. It was worth seeing inrepparttar 141814 last century when Halliburton lived, and will be worth seeing next century as well, because nothing, not technology, not urbanization, notrepparttar 141815 internet, not jet airplanes, can quellrepparttar 141816 fascinating saga of human beings, of people, of cultures and civilizations,repparttar 141817 ongoing conversation of past, present, future.

Butrepparttar 141818 deeper and more universally applicable point is this: life is worth living. Travel may not be your deal. Fair enough. Travel is just one aspect of a life well-lived. The point is for you to determine what you find beautiful, joyous, romantic, inspiring. And then start doing more of that and less ofrepparttar 141819 other stuff.

What turns you on, excites and energizes you? What is it that keeps you from degenerating into a gray mass of nothing? What will stop you from squandering tomorrow? Isn’t it high time that you stoppedrepparttar 141820 bland, monotonous quest for mere riches and respectability? Isn’t it time to live up to your secret lament thatrepparttar 141821 things you dreamed of when you were young aren’t exactly panning out?

Some day, you are going to die. You can’t change that. But before you die, you might as well live.

“Live! Liverepparttar 141822 wonderful life that is in you. Be afraid of nothing. There is such a little time…”

Richard Halliburton, The Royal Road to Romance, chapter 1.

Mark Cole is an attorney living in Magnolia, Texas. His web site, Conversations From the Past, helps men to start to live lives of authentic masculinity by drawing on the life force of the great men of the past. If you – or a man you know – is serious about getting out of a rut, then visit http://www.conversationsfromthepast.com today.

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