5. Find Your Real Self Again. Are you internally motivated, or addicted to applause? Do you do things just because "other people" expect you to, or do you do them because you experience joy and peace when you do? Are you living up to your higher goals, or just getting through day? Is your life a true reflection of what you believe in? Stop trying to "be" who or what you think you ought to be, and instead be willing to accept both your talents and your weaknesses. Then take full responsibility for how they affect you and other people in your life. 6. Find Out What Your Really Want Out of Life. Sounds simple doesn't it. Everybody knows what they want out of life - or do they? Begin by thinking about time where you were (or are) feeling completely happy , content, comfortable - and time just seems to fly by. What are you doing?. Why types of skills and activities are going on? What resources are you using? Many times your talents and passions are so much a part of you that they just seem to go unnoticed. Living your life based on your "big goals" allows you to focus your energy and achieve much more. Otherwise you become a pinball in game of life.

7. Organize Your Life-Style to Support Life you Want. Once you've determined what you really want, how your Real Self plays a part in that, and let go of some idealistic goals, you are ready to restructure your life to be a more genuine expression of who you are. Allowing your Real Self to come through, and being comfortable in your own skin and own goals, makes life instantly easier, less stressful, and outright more fun!

5. Don't do what you "should" do. The "shoulds" in our lives sometimes have a tendency to masquerade as true responsibilities, which they often really aren't. Take a good long look at "shoulds" in your life. Try replacing them with "I want..". "I want to visit my Dad each weekend, but sometimes I need to spend that extra time with my children." "I want to cook a healthy home-made meal for my family each night, but sometimes it's just not practical." By taking "should" out of sentence, you are now able to see that you're not a bad person and aren't shirking responsibility. You are simply making another choice on occasion.

6. Don't try to hide what you perceive to be a weakness. Life is hard enough without trying to be somebody you aren't. Consider your weaknesses AND your strengths, and work with them to make best person that you already are. The less you try to hide hat you think is a fault, less it will actually be on stage. Accept who you are, understand how it affects you and others around you, and find a way to use it to your advantage. If you can accept your own weaknesses, you'll also have a lot easier time accepting other people's as well.

7. Don't procrastinate. If you don't feel like you're making progress on your goal, or you have that "stuck" feeling, do something, anything that is in direction you want to go, no matter how small. One phone call, one sit-up, one drawer. If you're truly feeling overwhelmed by a project, concentrate on next few weeks, instead of next few years. For example, instead of thinking you need to lose 50 pounds, think about your calories and exercise just for this week