5 Make a public declaration

Tell someone whose opinion you value that you will be confident at a particular event. Your desire to impress this person will cause you to do all that you can to be at your very best.

And when you demand more of yourself you will be amazed at what you can do. You will start finding solutions to problems that left you stuck and you will seek advice from people who can help you.

6 Preparation makes perfect

Have you ever watched a top sportsperson in action and wondered to yourself at how easy she makes it look? Or listened to your favorite music CD and felt inspired by talent of singer?

Think. How did these superstars get to top? Practice, practice and more practice. I read an article about Pavarotti, opera singer, and he said he practices daily and he still learns something new about his voice each day!

When you spend more time honing your skills your confidence will soar because you will know with certainty that you can and will perform when curtain goes up.

7 Self comparison is key

Compare your progress in life with your previous results. Look to success of others to learn and not to measure your own success.

When you put your focus on daily improvement of your own skills and abilities you can and will grow very quickly. And your confidence will surge.

Confidence without competence is a dangerous combination.

Make it easy for yourself and only engage in Self comparison when you are assessing your progress. By doing this you will make it easier to keep at it when going gets tough and your competence will grow day by day.

1 Make a quick list of things you like or could like about this person.

Be creative. The more reasons better.

2 List ways person is like you.

This may be an eye opener because we often have very strong reactions to people who display characteristics we dislike about ourselves.

The more reasons you come up with easier it will be for you to feel positive towards other person. This change in your non verbal communication will be noticeable and will help ease some of tension in air.

This is often when dynamics of relationship can shift unexpectedly for better. Deciding to like other person regardless of how they are behaving is first step to making this happen.

At very least you will feel better. And when you feel better it is a lot easier to find solutions to deal with these tricky situations.

3 Take Baby Steps Towards Greater Rapport

With someone who dislikes you same rules of rapport still apply only you need to have more patience.

Aim to make slight gradual progress with person in question and over time you can shift relationship from negative to neutral and maybe even to positive.

And be kind to yourself if whole situation still upsets you. It is perfectly natural to feel uncomfortable when someone dislikes you. However it is foolish to roll over and play dead.

Take charge of your communication with this person and aim to improve situation. The little progress you make will boost your confidence and help you communicate even better with everyone else you ever meet.