If you want to ask your boss a favor, do everything you can to please him. Overdeliver and exceed his expectations. Soon, he will notice your efforts and will be more than glad to grant your request.

3) Provide them with compelling evidence.

Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be most effective techniques to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.

4) Meet their existing needs and desires.

People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantageous benefits to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it.

If you could focus more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established.

This is most important thing to remember when persuading anyone. No matter how close you are to becoming like them or how overwhelming your evidence is, if it does not satisfy "What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion efforts will not produce satisfactory results. Always bear in mind how they will benefit from your actions.

It also thrums our lives because it gives insulation against physiological effects of stress and separation that are so detrimental to our immune systems. We bolster ourselves against adversity.

Life can be full of adversity and we never know what lies ahead. We can count on good times, but alas, we must also encounter bad times. “The north wind doth blow,” goes nursery rhyme, “and we shall have snow. And what will robin do then, poor thing?”

The robin sits in barn and hides his head under his wing. The dormouse rolls up like a ball in his nest snug and small and sleeps till warm weather comes. And children are told that after their lessons they must “skip, hump and run until they’ve made themselves warm.”

This will take care of their physical temperature, but what about their emotional temperature. We know that what warms our hearts is companionship – caring for others and knowing they care about us, and living in community with others.

Thrumming your life means maintaining connections to your own emotions and those of others, and being able to continually make connections with people throughout your lifetime, as your circumstances will change. If you live long enough, it’s inevitable that you will outlive some of those whom you love and who love you.

Women are probably better at thrumming their lives, but need to be careful about adding relationships that nurture in a two-way direction. Men tend to try and thrum their lives with ideas, such as a noble profession, or children for whom they provide, and who will be their legacy and/or inherit their gold, but with whom they have no emotional connection. Thrum with good unspun fleece, i.e., something that inherently has substance. Bond with people who strengthen you, emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally.

EQ is about ability to gather and sustain nurturing relationships in your life, and ability to nurture yourself. Developing your emotional intelligence is like thrumming your mittens to keep you warm on a cold winter’s day. You won’t need those mittens on a beautiful spring day, but when a blizzard comes, you’ll not only need them, you’ll need them thrummed.