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5. Write down your resolutions
Write them down and stick them on your bathroom mirror, your fridge, your car dashboard, your desk or wherever you know will be a good place for you to see them. You can also show them to a good friend, family member, your coach or anyone who could provide support and encouragement.
6. Create action steps for each resolution; write these down, and keep an accounting of your progress for each.
A resolution without planned action is doomed to failure. Break each goal down into small action steps or objectives. Putting a date for completion will help ensure you follow through. Come up with an accountability system that will work for you. Make sure you check off each accomplishment as you go and be flexible and willing to make adjustments in your action steps in order to achieve your desired end results.
7. Take care of yourself; eat well, exercise regularly and learn to control and eliminate unhealthy stress.
I know this is an obvious one, so why is it often ignored or overlooked when we are attempting to make important life changes? How many times have you said, “I don’t have time” to eat right, exercise, sleep, etc.? Not caring for yourself will guarantee failure. So, why not make this your first and most important resolution for 2003?
8. Work to eliminate bad habits
Including this as a New Year’s resolution would put you on road to good follow-through. Bad habits will sabotage your efforts and use up your limited resources of time, energy and focus. For each bad habit you decide to eliminate, have a good habit in mind to replace it with.
9. Set appropriate and healthy limits in all areas of your life
Knowing your limits and enforcing them with yourself and others is a prerequisite to a healthy life and relationships. Learn to say “no” and “enough” and be firm in your resolve that this is a good thing to do. Otherwise, you will also be undermining your resolution to take care of yourself.
10. Work to be kind of person you want to be with
Bringing out best qualities in yourself will help to ensure that you attract people of good quality into your life. You wouldn’t want to compromise on standards you have set for a potential mate. Therefore, it’s important to understand that this also holds true for other people in search of relationships.
Toni Coleman, LCSW Help Singles Create Lasting Relationships http://www.consum-mate.com 703-847-1768
Toni Coleman is a psychotherapist and relationship coach who specializes in working with singles trying to create lasting, intimate relationships. She has over 20 years of post-masters experience in relationship counseling and coaching. She is the founder and President of LifeChange Coaching and Consum-mate Relationship Coaching. She developed and teaches the Creating Lasting Relationships Training, a tele-workshop designed to help singles to fulfill their relationship goals.