This in turn causes conversation to flow.

2. Give first to encourage sharing.

If all you do is ask questions other person will feel as if they are being interrogated.

That is not idea!

Be prepared to reveal something about yourself first without getting too personal.

By sharing first you are leading way and cause other person to feel obligated to return favor.

Sharing and receiving in this way allows you to take charge of any conversation and to easily lead it where you want to go.

3. Aim to control conversation.

If you can lead a conversation you can control it. You now know how to lead any conversation - give first and watch other person respond.

Most people will follow your lead right away. If person does not just move on to someone else.

Never shoot for 100% with people as its not a realistic goal. Life does not work like that.

And remember...

The key to success with these distinctions is to use them, play with them and then adjust them to suit you.

For sake of 10-15 minutes a day, every day, you can progressively get better and better at making conversation.

Its not rocket science. Its just a matter of strategy - knowing it and using it.

Take charge of situation if you want conversation to continue.

4 Stupid Statements Are Allowed!

If you say something stupid it is not end of world. If you try to hide your error then situation can become chaotic very quickly.

It is far better to just admit that you made a mistake. Also, accept that even smart people say stupid things some times.

As long as you accept that you will make mistakes you have nothing to worry about. Expecting yourself to be perfect is unfair and just sets you up for failure.

All you need to do now is to decide how you will deal with these mistakes when they do happen.

5 Enjoy The Silence!

When there is a long silence in a conversation what normally passes through your mind? Do you judge it as bad? Do you feel under pressure to speak?

The other person has created silence with you. Why not wait for him to speak first? Take responsibility off your shoulders. It takes at least two people to have a conversation.

Finally, reason silence can be uncomfortable is because you become self conscious. You become very aware of your own thoughts and feelings

There is one great way to deal with this. Put your attention on something outside of yourself by paying great attention to other person and whatever is going on around you in room.

Become fascinated by what you see and hear and you will forget about your own concerns.