11 Things NOT to Do the First Week on Your New Job

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach & Consultant


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6. Don't VOLUNTEER.

They don't trust you yet. "Get" that. Don't volunteer to makerepparttar coffee or makerepparttar 123125 nightly run to FedEx. You could poison them. You might never make it torepparttar 123126 FedEx office. (I am not kidding.)

7. Don't MAKE IT TOO HARD, OR TOO EASY.

Pace your initial tasks. If you start out blazing, you'll be held to that pace forever, or you may threaten others who do what you do. If you go too slow, you might not be there long. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

8. Don't SAY 'NO'.

If you're asked to join them for lunch, pitch in for a baby shower gift, "grabrepparttar 123127 phone," or do a task for someone, say "yes." If something goes againstrepparttar 123128 grain (and there's always one person in an office who tries to make life hell forrepparttar 123129 new guy it seems), file it for later. First you need to find out how disputes are handled.

The good manager,repparttar 123130 one withrepparttar 123131 high EQ who knows people, and knows HER people, will tell you, "If so-and-so gives you any trouble, just be nice. Then come tell me and I'll take care of it." The inept manager won't know, or isn't willing to deal with it, and you'll have to figure it out for yourself. How do you do this? By having your antennae out. Observe and process.

EXCEPTION: Occasionally in an office you're ignored forrepparttar 123132 first few weeks, except byrepparttar 123133 loser, who will ask you to join him or her for lunch, trying to build an alliance. In that case, you come up with an excuse ("Sorry, gotta run torepparttar 123134 bank at noon.")

9. Don't CRITIQUE, CRITICIZE, or APPEAR TO BE COMPLAINING.

You'll notice things that could be done differently and better, but if you speak at this point it will sound like complaining or criticizing. If it's too hot or too cold, for instance, wait it out. The "new kid onrepparttar 123135 block" isn't entitled to anything. You can straightenrepparttar 123136 place out later.

10. Don't VIOLATE PACK BEHAVIOR.

You watchrepparttar 123137 Discovery Channel, don’t you? Well, picturerepparttar 123138 troop of monkeys, i.e., if you’re notrepparttar 123139 alpha male, you’re just one ofrepparttar 123140 pack, so start grinning and groomingrepparttar 123141 others.

11. Don’t UNDERESTIMATE THE EFFECT OF INITIAL CONDITIONS.

In physics it’s called “sensitive initial conditions.” It meansrepparttar 123142 way “it” (any system) begins makes a huge and permanent difference. Think of what you say and do as being broadcast with a loudspeaker into a cavern which will reverberate and echo for months. There’s not such thing as an “innocent comment” when you’re new, and if you show up in a bright print dress when everyone else is in neutral and pants, you’ll reinventrepparttar 123143 term “sticking out like a sore thumb.” The onus (hard work) is on you. They will be ADJUSTING to you. You must ADAPT to them (a far stronger concept). When in doubt, get coaching! You want to get off to a good start.

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Make Mistakes! It's Okay. Really!

Written by Ronnie Nijmeh


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I mean, how can you learn without messing up every once in a while? You need to make a mistake to learn. If you did everything perfectly, then you’ll never knowrepparttar right strategy fromrepparttar 123124 wrong.

Are You a Leader?

Then there’s a whole other set of people who admit to their mistakes, acknowledge that they stumbled, but they go right into contingency mode. I mean, so you screwed up, so what? It’s notrepparttar 123125 end ofrepparttar 123126 world is it? The Earth will still be in orbit and mosquitoes will still be bitingrepparttar 123127 hell out of your legs. It’s not a question of: “I screwed up, give me pity”, it’s a question of: “Okay, I slipped-up, but this is what I’m going to do about it...”

The best leaders out there arerepparttar 123128 ones who maderepparttar 123129 most mistakes but learned from them. The ones that never discovered or acknowledged their faux pas never made it intorepparttar 123130 business world and never made a difference in their own life, orrepparttar 123131 world.

Young Toronto Blue Jays starting pitcher Josh Towers went 0-12 last season between Baltimore and its Triple-A club. Last year asrepparttar 123132 Jays' fifth starter he went 8-1. Quiterepparttar 123133 turn around from just a year ago! Josh Towers,repparttar 123134 winning Jays' pitcher inrepparttar 123135 last game ofrepparttar 123136 season, said:

"You can't succeed without failing. I failed. I learned a lot from that."

Now go out there and pitch a perfect game in your life. You might fail once. Or twice. Or ten times. But just remember, each failure brings you closer to a glowing success.



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