5) Delegate – Giving some of your responsibilities to someone else or getting help with aspects of a project will free up some of your time and energy that can be used elsewhere (perhaps a little “you time”?). It is very easy to fall into trap of “I’m only one who knows how to do this” or “If I delegate this to someone else it may not get done right” and so on. Letting go of these beliefs and trusting in abilities of others will enhance your energy.

6) Script your day – Just after you wake up in morning stay in bed and take a couple moments to script how you want to feel as you go through your day. Simply say to yourself: “I want to feel calm” or “I want to feel energetic”. Initially you may not notice any difference, but keep it up and you will start to notice that you can decide how you want to feel as you go through your day instead of simply reacting.

7) Create systems to get organized – A system is any technique or procedure that you can implement to make better use of your time and energy. For example, a filing system for bills and other important documents makes them easier to find; keeping work clothes separate from casual clothes in your closet makes getting dressed a snap, and so on. Find creative ways to use systems in your day-to-day living that increases efficiency.

8) Set boundaries and say no – Choosing to say no will help you to stay focused on your top priorities. Always saying yes means you end up taking on more and more. Becoming comfortable with saying no will allow you to finish what you’ve already started and give you freedom to choose what you will and will not take on.

9) Know your intentions – Before you take on something new, ask yourself how it will serve you to participate in that activity/project. If it doesn’t serve you at all or doesn’t serve you well, then it doesn’t meet your intention.

10) Eliminate energy drains – What are you tolerating or putting up with in your life that is utilizing energy. If you got rid of this energy drain, you would be able to use that energy for something else. Examine your relationships, environment, work, etc. and work on eliminating those things that drain you.

By practicing these strategies, you will be able to manage your energy, which will reduce your exhaustion and stress levels. You will be in control of your life, instead of your life being in control of you.

A victim position differs from a victim situation by re-creating a victim situation in mind. All thoughts and feelings connected with it then influence perspective on life.

A victim situation happens in life. Out of such a situation victim position emerges with all associated feelings of powerless rage and guilt feelings which then gets repeated in life.

How can you move beyond suffering?

An important step to move beyond suffering is to understand your motives. Is suffering consolidation of an old pain, a victim position, part of identity or possibility to get attention?

Another important step is to expand your consciousness. Consciousness heals. Consciousness is a tool that allows you to see through illusions and confusions that make you prone for suffering.

What would be important to understand to move beyond suffering?

* The four pillars of how to grow joy in your life * The difference it makes when you say YES: YES to life, to Self, to other person, to your community, to human values and to union with life and challenges that you have to face in making these choices * How creation of your own story keeps you in bondage and how you can change it * How self-forgiveness can set you free * The difference between guilt feelings and responsibility * The difference between a victim and a victim attitude * The illusion of romantic love, how it makes you unhappy and how you can move beyond it * The secret of true sharing * The power of counting your blessings * The balance of giving and receiving and how you can attain it * The spiral nature of process of life * How you can use love as a growth process * How you can use your life patterns as signposts for a fulfilled life

All this information and hand-on tools such as exercises and instructions I provide in my ebook “Beyond Suffering” at http://www.visioform.com/uk/ebook-joy.htm