You choose your relationship – either type of person you can settle down with or in a few months, use to repeat a cycle of behaviour.

All it takes to change things in your life is one thing. That thing is not a big thing. In fact it is very subtle.

It sits behind every word you speak and every action you take. It flickers like magnetic beacon attracting and repelling people, situations, possibilities, hopes and dreams. And in order to change you life you must change it.

It is your thoughts.

That is magic – your thoughts.

What you’ve created for yourself - with your hamster wheel! - is almost like a caged existence. And you will keep yourself penned in until you decide to change your thoughts.

My advice to you is to first acknowledge situation you are in now. Look at what you gain from being where you are in life. Then think about what you would like and match your dreams with thoughts. This is process I had to go through when changing from being overweight and without a penny to becoming a published author.

“Life has put me in this pen to help me change my thoughts?” Extract from Black Water, by Neil Millar.

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So....what about everybody else? If meditation comes easily to only a small percentage of population, why is it that all approaches to mindfulness require sitting still and focusing inward?

If we use Multiple Intelligences theory as a way to recognize our different learning styles and natural tendencies, we see that there must be a number of ways to develop mindfulness without relying solely upon meditation.

Teachers around globe are employing Multiple Intelligences theory in classroom in order to prepare lessons that appeal to learning styles of all types of students. The ultimate goal of learning specific material is same no matter what, but this enlightened approach to teaching is inclusive and exhilarating.

If meditation fits only ONE of eight intelligences (intrapersonal) we are missing out on seven other areas in which we can learn--and teach-- mindfulness! Being attached to a single approach is decidedly limiting and downright archaic.

If you find it difficult to get motivated to meditate, consider this: perhaps your particular combination of multiple intelligences would benefit from a different approach to mindfulness.

In other words, it's not you--it's teacher! Or, more precisely, teachings.

If meditation isn't working for you, take heart. There are seven other areas in which mindfulness training can inform, inspire and delight you.

That's what counts.