Looking for a summer project? How about working on who you are, and what kind of life you really want to live? Here’s some ideas.
1. Focus on “who”, not “what”. If you find that you’ve been stuck in a goal for a while, try restating it in “who” terms instead of what. For example, instead of saying “I want to lose 10 lbs.”, say “I want to be someone who is at a healthier weight for my age.” Instead of “I want to spend time with my kids”, say “I want to be someone who is a devoted parent.” Then ask yourself what actions would be fit with your desire to “be” instead of “get”.
2. Control-ability. Get clear on what you can really control and what is out of your control. You can’t control world politics, but you can vote. You can’t control terrorism, but you can be prepared in your own home. You can’t control construction crews on freeway, but you can control how much time you allot for a trip. Knowing what you can control and exercising that, and letting go of what you can’t, reduces stress related feelings immensely.
3. Be Generous. You know you haven’t worn that shirt in 2 years. Someone needs that shirt to keep warm on streets this winter, don’t let it just sit idle in your closet. Live from abundance, not lack. You’ll have other shirts. Share. Feel good about yourself for helping others less fortunate.
4. Give it a home. The biggest culprit for chronically lost items in home or office -- keys, remote, phone, scissors, batteries -- are that they don’t have a home. Just like teenagers, if you know where they are going to be, you don't have to waste time looking for them!
5. Establish routines. While they sound boring and confining, routines are actually freeing. Instead of being worried and anxious on Monday morning wondering if your credit-card bill is late again, you’ll feel calm knowing that you always pay bills on Wed. evening, so you have nothing to be concerned about. Routines take stress out!
6. Analyze it. Did you know that a full 80% of your problems come from 20% of your life? It’s true! Determine what that 20% is that’s affecting so much of your life, and start working to make it more efficient and orderly.