1. Identify and live by your values.When we know what our values are, and our goals and actions are in harmony with our values, we are seldom stressed or in conflict about what we are doing.
2. Complete Past
Sometimes we hang on to voices or perceived injustices from past, long after person or situation is dead and gone. By bringing closure to these events, we are free to move forward.
3. Plan for Future.
It is important to know where we want to go and to have a rough idea of how we plan to get there. While it is important to give up final control to God or Universe, we need a sense of focus and direction to our lives. Planning for future gives us that sense of direction.
4. Live in Present.
This is key. Once we have completed past and planned for future, we need to stay focused in here and now. There is very little that we cannot handle in moment. (A clue: if you are feeling guilt, you are in past. If you are feeling fear, you are in future. The absence of those feelings generally means you are planted firmly in present!) .
5. Understand that if you can dream it, you can achieve it.
If we are -- truly -- not capable of something, then it is practically impossible for us to dream about it. Knowledge of what we are capable of is in each and every cell of our being. So no matter how wild and far-fetched your dream appears, very existence of dream means that you can achieve it if you are willing to commit to it.
6. Allow others to live their own lives.
Allowing others to be themselves and to live their own lives is first step in being able to be yourself and living your own life. If you have any 'shoulds' or expectations of others, let them go. Shoulds kill relationships faster than any weapon I know of and fill our lives with unnecessary stress.